We don’t have to like everyone and not everyone needs to like us. Be yourself and find your people. Creates a happier life in my opinion.
I also rarely form an opinion of someone based on one interaction.
We didn’t watch Mean Girls and think damn I want to emulate Regina George. It was a social critique on a phenomenon that existed before the film. Just like men compete with other men. Women compete with women. I’ve yet to interact with a troll presenting as male on here and think it’s actually a woman behind the keyboard. I have dealt with npubs presenting as women and think I’m pretty sure that’s a man behind the keyboard though. I’ve encountered both male and female trolls on Nostr. Men and women troll differently online, just like in real life.
The way a male novelist writes women is very different than women write women. Even painters, sculptors, etc their artwork of women is very different than what a woman creates. A friend and I have a game in art museums where any art depicting women we say from a distance if we think the artist is male or female. Haven’t been wrong yet.
Just like with artwork, trolls have little tells.
So far the only issues I’ve had with women on Nostr are the ones obsessed with Dorsey. One of those I believe to be a man pretending to be a woman obsessed with him. 🤷🏼♀️
I don’t know your situation. Having dealt with a lot of medical billing situations, I’ve had scammers unconnected to the hospital/doctors trying to collect money from me. Record keeping is everything. Keeps notes of every phone call and the name of every representative you speak to. It’s an absolutely insane process imo. Feels like banging your head against a wall dealing with medical billing.
Where I’m from traditionally a bride’s parent’s foot the bill for the wedding. Many couples are jointly paying for their own weddings now. But I’ve never seen a groom expected to pick up the whole tab for a wedding.
I know more stay at home moms. They are not getting leisure time while their husband is at work. At best they’re getting a bit of time while the kid(s) are napping but it’s usually time filled getting things done without kiddos slowing you down. Their husbands pitch in on childcare and household tasks after work too.
Glad you’re getting around again. Mobility issues suck. Recovery can be slow and a roller coaster from my experience. Doing pretty good personally right now. Knock on wood, cross fingers, and say a prayer it stays that way. 🤞🏻
Being able to work in partnership and for the highest benefit of your partner is important. People have different ideas of how that looks for them. I think finding a partner who shares your goals and outlook is incredibly important too.
I know some people look down on the term partner. But I’ve seen spouses I wouldn’t consider partners so I confer a great deal of meaning to the term.
I feel like when it comes to others you don’t really know the truth of their relationships. You only know who that person is to you. I have an ex who was a great friend and absolutely toxic as a boyfriend.
I think how one handles wealth is more important than the amount. If a guy is driving a Lamborghini as his everyday car he’s not on the same page as me. Also if there’s income/ wealth disparity how does your partner make you feel about it? How do they seem to feel about it? I don’t want to be with someone who would hold a grudge against me or treat me as less than because of their material wealth. I’ve seen guys with a little money acting like every woman who says hello is after their bag. Then I’ve seen multimillionaires who were generous with their time and attention. It’s more mindset than pure numbers.
I get that. My discomfort is more about me personally than someone else’s success. I personally need to confront my discomfort and either change it or accept it.
This 💯 Too large a percentage of the dating pool needs to take a long hard look in the mirror and reevaluate either what they’re doing/offer, what they are willing to accept in a partner, or accept that they’re going to be single.
I’ve come to the conclusion that male and female dating standards are on the whole wild these days. We all talk like there’s a generally agreed on dating standard that we’re all supposed to know. Meanwhile I’ve seen a woman ask if there’s any tea or red flags about a man and then proceed to share a mugshot. While another woman thinks because she chatted with a guy on a dating app and then they met for coffee 2 weeks ago with no contact since then, that he’s a cheating boyfriend for meeting someone else for coffee. I knew from personal experience how crazy men could be but damn the stories some women tell on themselves is wild to me.
I’ve also seen a woman who kept sleeping around on a guy because they hadn’t had the talk. Meanwhile everyone thought of her as this guy’s girlfriend and it was blatantly obvious so did this guy. They’d been dating for months. I recommended she have the talk so they were on the same page but she knew what he was thinking and didn’t want reason to ruin her fun.
I went out on a first date I cut short and the guy thought I was the one. Like weeks later showed up at my doorstep crying at 3am. Then I know guys who are like 40 something thinking maybe I’ll settle down one day.
The dating pool is fair game batshit craziness.
I call that elimi-dating. I’ve been on dates and observed them where one or both parties are elimi-dating. It’s awful. I’ve had more enjoyable job interviews.
Also I haven’t figured out how to tell someone, typically a friend, your list and expectations are batshit crazy in a polite way. I’m taking suggestions.
I’ll be honest and say I’ve talked about dates with friends like the date was a candidate applying for a job they weren’t qualified for. I’ve also been on a date and felt like I’m not qualified to be here, I’ll just excuse myself.
I have told friends before that the person described in their list doesn’t exist. I’ve also been like ok so what’s the 60-80% of the list that’s really necessary and what are the nice to haves. I’ve also suggested people look at their list and for everything they’re asking for evaluate how they’re bringing that or a complimentary trait to the table.
I’m known amongst friends of being blunt and straight to the heart of the matter if they’re unloading or asking for advice. As far as I know I’m not autistic.
I’m about to put it in my bio that I don’t know Dorsey, therefore I am definitely not dating him, no I cannot connect you with him, yes I am absolutely sure. I’ve talked to some women dealing with this, any men getting dm’s or messages on other platforms like they’re Jack’s messaging service?
Oh yeah and GM!
Sometimes I’m just cranky and tired. Being well rested helps me have constructive discussions. Sometimes I think something is a huge problem when I’m tired and cranky that isn’t one in my well rested eyes.
I thought the rule was you need 3 drinks for working, something caffeinated, water, and a miscellaneous hydrating drink that’s neither water nor caffeinated.
Should have been a comma between encryption and today. I was thinking about footage from the hearing today but it’s been a bit since that hearing happened.
I’ve been known to buy a book after I read it, if I really love it and want it to be part of my collection. I’ll also buy books of the authors I know. My Dad has a friend who is a successful author now. From the beginning he would go buy his new book the first day it was available. Pretty sure if I publish a book my Dad would go buy a copy first day it was available.
Skip the moxy, imo. Tiny rooms. Veers towards hip club vibes complete with window of shower viewable from the bedroom. People like it because it’s close to Bitcoin Park. Nice usual options are the W, The Hermitage, Four Seasons. The Joseph is also lovely.
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