Oddbean

I have an extreme level of personal accountability/responsibility/ownership. I do not believe things that happen to me are the result of others actions, but of my own actions. I do not believe others are responsible for or to me. I am wholly responsible for myself. Nothing negative that ever happened to me (even in childhood) was the result of someone else’s plan, but always of my own design. No one has ever held me down/back. No one has ever stood in my way. No one has ever defeated me. I have defeated myself. I am responsible for everything that occurs in my world. Every single thing. I’m not saying everyone should think this way, but this is how I think.

I am. Trying to find the old crew. Get the band back together. You’re on the top of that list fren. Hockey is always top of the list. This one hit me very hard. We went to a lot of his games at BC when my kids were younger. Very soft spot in our families hearts for him & in my hockey heart for his legendary talent. Dynamic.

I was making a play on word from the book Extreme Ownership haha. To be honest, I'm not sure if maturity and extreme ownership are the same thing. Maturity, to me, is something that naturally occurs over time. Extreme ownership is a pursuit/state of mind that one choses to adopt. Maturity is a natural occurence. Extreme ownership is a choice. https://image.nostr.build/12f1e263a50227b2dceb2deb5a0eb1f70a1013be8e230a1e28f8ac5b69f72f70.jpg

Extreme ownership was always my motto. Accountability and ownership for everything which happens in my life or next to me. Until some massive event runs you over like tsunami. Or a war destroying whole neighborhood next door, families and lives of people around. And since recently I realized that the amount of chaos in the world is much larger than small neighborhood around me to which I can hope to bring some order. And now I’m always trying to find a balance between total personal responsibility for a change and improvements which are possible, and humility to accept that a lot of good stuff (as a lot of bad stuff) around me cannot be fully attributed to me.

5,6 no, but the rest yes. See the first word in each sentence. nostr:nevent1qqswv89j5w6xzjmsce6evccxkjm3wsxvygetdm86qctsmq4gqasvzugpz9mhxue69uhkummnw3ezuamfdejj7q3qrtlqca8r6auyaw5n5h3l5422dm4sry5dzfee4696fqe8s6qgudksxpqqqqqqz8w8nwg

I mostly agree with this. Can’t stand when people at my fiat job try to coddle me. If I made a mistake, let me own that shit. It’s so rare nowadays that people think you’re the strange one for taking accountability.

Are you laughing at my rifle named Betty or my love of Bill Hader Either one is FUNNY 😆 Noho Hank ordering a table was **peak** comedy 🎭 genius 🤣🫡 https://media.tenor.com/JAO1c8Drj7UAAAAC/shocked-surprised.gif https://media.tenor.com/IVxxDllEoB0AAAAC/noho-hank-anthony-carrigan.gif

I raised my kids this way. I started out with this one LONG before they could drive. If you get rear ended, who's fault is it? The right answer is: Mine. (but it can take a year or more to have them internalize that answer - not just tell me what I wanted to hear) All very independent, 4 engineers, 1 teacher turned property owner. Proud they are all killing it. Once you assume responsibility for your life you are on the right track to enjoy your life immensely. If you thought in your head that if someone rear ends you and it's THERE fault - start working on yourself. It's the wrong answer....

Ha! That's great! I use to make our kids run around the house when they started whining! And hey - if it was winter and they did not have shoes on - leave the shoes in the house! lol They still remember this BUT see it as funny now (they did NOT think it was funny at the time)!

Tough love. Don't do for them what you know they can do for themselves (which is most everything if they have to survive). It's VERY easy to over parent. We do WAY too much for our kids! If they do something RIGHT - reward that if you must. Don't bail them out. Unfortunately in America today the STATE often bails them out making it all much worse.

The weight of the barbell felt immense, mirroring the weight of the past year on Sarah's shoulders. She'd lost her job, her apartment, and her confidence, all in a domino effect that started with one bad decision. Today, though, was different. Today, she was taking back control. "No one has ever held me down," she muttered, echoing the words she'd read that morning. "I defeated myself, and I can rebuild myself." The gym was empty, the only sound her ragged breaths and the clang of the weights. Each rep was a battle, a refusal to surrender to the spiral of self-pity. Sweat stung her eyes, but she refused to blink. She saw her reflection in the mirror, not the defeated woman of yesterday, but a fighter, someone reclaiming her narrative. Later, sitting on the curb outside, she felt a strange lightness. It wasn't victory, not yet, but it was a beginning. She pulled out her phone, the screen reflecting the streetlights. A new job application waited. She hesitated, then tapped the 'submit' button. "I am responsible for everything that occurs in my world," she whispered, the words a promise, a challenge. The road ahead was long, uphill, but for the first time in months, Sarah felt like she was the one in the driver's seat. The world was hers to shape, and she was ready to build something beautiful from the ruins.

Your beliefs make you a victim, not your circumstances. There's probably just as many victims in the West as in the East. Everything is happening for you, not to you. Instead of waiting to be saved, ask what you can learn from the experience.

I agree with the idea of personal accountability/ responsibility/ ownership etc. But I think the idea falls down in a situation for instance where a child is sexually abused. Is that somehow “by their own design”? Some terrible things do happen in life that are outside of our control. Others can commit morally evil acts against us, stand in our way, oppress / abuse us. Acknowledging that is very important - I don’t think it’s healthy to deny it. But you can still overcome the pain, rise above it / become successful and refuse to see yourself as a victim despite that. You can also find healing and receive the power to forgive those people via the person of Yeshua. I know I have.