I raised my kids this way.
I started out with this one LONG before they could drive.
If you get rear ended, who's fault is it?
The right answer is: Mine.
(but it can take a year or more to have them internalize that answer - not just tell me what I wanted to hear)
All very independent, 4 engineers, 1 teacher turned property owner. Proud they are all killing it.
Once you assume responsibility for your life you are on the right track to enjoy your life immensely.
If you thought in your head that if someone rear ends you and it's THERE fault - start working on yourself. It's the wrong answer....
THIS. Raised three fierce adults. New adults π€£π«‘π«
Number 1 rule was no whining. They had to use their words. π«π
Ha! That's great! I use to make our kids run around the house when they started whining! And hey - if it was winter and they did not have shoes on - leave the shoes in the house! lol
They still remember this BUT see it as funny now (they did NOT think it was funny at the time)!
π€£π€£π«‘ Thatβs wild π parenting is one of those wild things we never know how we did until later.
Best thing ever too. π«ππ
Oh - remembered another one. If I asked them to do something, and they started whining, I would give them a second chore.
Each time they complained, add another chore!
I love it! My kids are now grown ups and I failed them. Any suggestions on how can I make this right? π
Tough love. Don't do for them what you know they can do for themselves (which is most everything if they have to survive).
It's VERY easy to over parent. We do WAY too much for our kids!
If they do something RIGHT - reward that if you must. Don't bail them out.
Unfortunately in America today the STATE often bails them out making it all much worse.
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