OK thats fair, but i was responding to your point that you cant reccomend nostr without being worried about trolls. what I'm saying is that nostr isn't free from trolls and I don't think it ever will be because it was never meant to be. Effective or not is another story but there isn't any active suppression of trolls by nostr clients unlike other centralized services. But is nostr worse than x in that regard? Genuinely asking because I'm not a woman and no longer on x.
I think nostr is hard for any non nym women who aren’t used to somewhere so small that they are easily targeted. My friends and I can talk all day publicly on twitter with no one giving a damn because of how big it is.
Nostr also doesn't have a very good DM system so that makes it even harder I'm sure.
I guess you could start a private relay for just you and your friends and exclude everyone else. That woild remove all trolls and bots. Tho that's a whole other technical hurdle and probably a pain in the ass to swap relays back and forth between public and private
I just can’t in good faith get them on nostr, they’re not used to the bullshit like i am, and are sweet summer children who i strive to protect from the harsh world on small scale protocols. But then i feel bad, because i want nostr to grow, how can it grow without me showing it to friends?