OK thats fair, but i was responding to your point that you cant reccomend nostr without being worried about trolls. what I'm saying is that nostr isn't free from trolls and I don't think it ever will be because it was never meant to be. 
Effective or not is another story but there isn't any active suppression of trolls by nostr clients unlike other centralized services. But is nostr worse than x in that regard? Genuinely asking because I'm not a woman and no longer on x.