Oddbean new post about login | logout What do you think is the healthiest way to deal with anger?
Silence
Are you being ironic or serious Share the recipe of your post pls
I'm being serious. It's incredibly difficult, even if you read Silence as not speaking in anger, or acting in anger, but also some sort of inner quiet. It's the healthiest imo. But not saying it's the easiest. In fact most of the time if feels impossible. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I knew you were cooking something. Here's a turtle emoji to help your inner quiet, works a little bit for me 🐢
What I do, (but not saying it works) is try to remember in the heat of the moment other times when I've spoken or acted out of anger and how undignified it feels afterwards. And how much indwell on it after. And they to avoid that dwelling another time. I often fail:/
I'm obviously not saying anger isn't sometimes justified and things should be met with response tho. More thinking of initial rage lol
So sick of thinking of scenarios when I should've said and done nothing. Kept silent. But no. They are now filed in the 'things to dwell on when you can't get to sleep' insomnia folder lol
You having a gun pointed at me makes this conversation scary and thrilling. Pointing it at me playfully without pulling the trigger reminds me of how you go through life as a powerful creature under such self-restraint. I feel l'appel du vide wondering if the next moment could be when you lose control and I become your first victim
I run away so it’s sort of that
Punch a fascist
Making the lives of enemies worse isn't satisfying, but it might be a healthy human response anyway, fr
Go to run or have a sex 😁
Keep calm and stack sats.
Also using nostr to talk about it if you want and asking for advices. There are very smart people here on areas we know little about, for example I'm a nerd with lack of social skills, but here I see people with lots of wisdom and it inspires me.
Ask yourself: Is it my problem? No? Don't care about it!
You ask what I think - that means I can answer without being sure, just based on my feelings, so revenge is in the running. If you asked what I know for sure, I'd have to say music helps. Music can definitely be a healthy answer.
not sure there's a one-size-fits-all method. for me it is just understanding that you cant do anything good during anger. so if you like you can be in anger ) no big deal but just do nothing or just crash dishes. but action or conclusion only when you calm.
Embrace it while remembering that its a feeling that passes by very fast if not reinforced by spiral thoughts. That energy must be let out by activity, fighting, dancing, running, singing, screaming and so on. As long as not locking it up or hurting people seriously (yourself included) its very healthy part of every daily life that has an undeserved bad reputation 🖤🪭 Writing it out in diary with pen and paper also good for me🙃
Time and forgiveness
praying + meditation
First I try to eliminate the things that are pissing me off. If I can't do that I just have to remind myself that it's not the thing that's the problem, it's my reaction to it that's the problem.
sit down if standinding, lay down if sitting. say "I seek refuge with the creator who created me, from all evil." then go and wash your hands rinse your mouth wash your face and your feet. remember you need to know you are a strong person if you can control your anger. you will be grateful for being strong and not doing anything regretful and the heat of the moment. Be grateful to the creator who created the whole universe and everything & everyone in it. Ask the creator to show the right path and how to deal with your situation, from the bottom of your heart, with sincere open heart & mind and you will see miracle.
To accept that anger is part of you right now. To learn how to observe anger for what it is. That means, to objectively observe the body sensations related to anger. Those could be heat, stomach pressure, anything. Then realize deeply that the sensations change all the time. Your emotions change, your anger changes. Everything changes all the time. Then your anger is seen and can dissipate. And if during that process you were able to untie a deep subconcious conditioning, the anger may never return with the same strenght or at all. Through meditation you heighten your awareness of body sensations. Constant, effortless awareness of your emotions and related body sensations throughout the day is meditation. That is your path to freedom 😉 #Vipassana
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