I have all my life attracted them into my life. I still trying to understand what in me makes us a vibrational match. I think family upbringing.
They are incapable of love, which makes me feel compassion towards them, since love is the best feeling and they are "handicapped", from it.
Purrs, they are just a little toddler, like your little one, that could not "separate" from mummy. They have the emotional maturity of a toddler between 2 and 4, always in flight fight mode. Survival mode. Always throwing tantrums. There is no love, only shame, like Nico said. They are so fragile they can't even accept a constructive critic. They will react and punish you, for anything, especially when you are the most loving. They can't understand how is possible someone to love what is unlovable. They don't interact with real world like we do. All is an extension of self, a self that did not develop .It's all confabulations and Illusions. Everything happens only in the mind.
A relationship with an NPD is just a shared fantasy, inside a mirror room. They project...you, into you.
Plus, they have cold empathy which allows them to "read" people like no one. They know which buttons to press just to see you break. It gives them a high. They are so insecure, they need to put others down to feel better in their skin. They don't love themselves, they never received love, by neglect at that young age. I think, somehow, their personality is built on this permiss that they are unworthy of love.
You are right, not meat to be, it just means that o e or both, didnt put the effort, or did no t do do their part, on making happens. Therefore, it breaks apart. It's not some just magical thing.
Well, to be honest with you, I think too much thinking and believes, make people loose on life.
If we are honest with oneself, who knows? The purpose of life is having experiences. Why care if it will be long or not? Who cares? You don't know if you will be annoyed. Image life gives a girl you are never bored with ? Everything is possible!!!!
Why not just simply live?
Take a chance, and accept how things go?
I mean, tomorrow we can be dead...
We have no control on life and the time we are here.
It's just "anti" life I think to not live, because we make stories in our mind that are far from reality.
We all have ! Me included. I have been all my life alone, so I understand your point. I also have been in several abusive relationships, so I have trust issues, for example and I think I stonewall. Lol
Wise response! I like it! 😋🌈🙌🌈
I understand and agree to a point, since I reckon that relationship issues can only be sorted inside a connection.
You can do part of the healing on your own, but then you have to be in the "field" to manage to watch yourself doing it and choose not to do it in the moment. Was I clear?
Yes, it's how we learn. A d if we want to become a better version of ourselves, we change how we behave. GM ! Nice to meet you. Followed back ! 🌈🙌🌈
Tips that work! 😄
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