I'm not saying Damus is bad in any way, this is just @Marie twisting things. If Damus connects twice in a row to a relay that's almost not even a bug (although I think it shouldn't do it). But I'm not even sure this is the issue, it could very well be on my side and I thought she could provide information to help me debug that, but instead what I got was some weird aggressive message.
Btw, I am actually curious what client you use. We like to test everything here. Also, I completely understand if you don’t want to say this in public.
These days mostly Gossip, but also Coracle and an old Plebstr sometimes on the phone. Previously I've used Snort a lot, Yana, Nostrudel, Alphaama, I'm probably missing some. I've never used Damus because I don't have an iPhone.