Yes might be true

But hey life is short, so why be fake, just keep rocking, I mean we all have flaws. It is what it is.  

 I really like Alain de Botton’s take on this… 📖👌🏻 

 tell me more 🤔 

 I learned from him that the wish to tell someone *absolutely* everything is both beautiful and ultimately utopian in a problematic way. We all have within us ambivalences, doubts, unfair thoughts that could cause irrevocable damage if shared. At least in love (of all forms) and relationships that matter to us, we wouldn’t want to rub the other person constantly up against the most troubling sides of our psyche, hence the need to edit. Not to be untruthful or deceitful, but to give the better gift of a thoughtful, lovingly edited version of our thoughts. 

As wonderful as we might think it would be, “we should hope that we don’t meet the fullest version of each other all the time”. Caring about someone comes with the role of lightly editing ourselves out of love. 

Now if you don’t care about the person or the relationship or being kind for the sake of being kind, might as well not spend your time there at all. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 

 edit the delivery but not the message. Any less and you are creating future fissures. If a relationship partner wants fantasy instead, if you feel you have to lie to keep them stable or loving you, run. 

 I’m talking about the parts of our thinking that we wouldn’t want to stand behind. Not every thing that crosses our mind deserves to be delivered – psychopaths lack that knowledge. Even with just ourselves there’s a need for questioning and filtering. 

 are you insinuating that my point of view is psychopathic without understanding what I am saying first? Did I say every thought? 

Let me be more clear for you.
1. the relationship is valued - truth
2. something true needs saying. - truth
3. truth is the goal but delivery can be modified through language and demeanor.

So if all these are true and the relationship is functional, and you are not a psychopath, then the path to truth with minimal damage comes through the communication style you choose to employ. The style you choose to employ reflects on you and not the partner.

so maybe try not to throw around words like psychopath in describing people or thoughts that you have not taken the time to understand.

stay free fren 

 There one no insinuation there! 😂 Only an illustration. 

I guess that’s why we need emojis. 😌

I hear you, and I think we’re talking from two different angles that can absolutely coexist. 

Stay free, too! 🫂 

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 Honesty is a precious gift, only give it to those who have earned it from you.  
If you attempt to help those who are not willing to listen, they will turn around and attack you. 

 yeah, true, but i can be deluded and wrong

full transparency isn't always the best 

 Yes I agree, transparency is vulnerability and there are many who would leverage that power over you. Be cautious who you give that too. Privacy isn't secrecy. 

 Vulnerability is protected by rigorous insistence that the truth prevail. otherwise a tyranny of silence and "tolerance" ensues. Then you have Canada. I have watched it happen. 

 Its funny when they attack though. Then I get to clown them. 

 Basikaly bi yoself and people will like you or hate you for who you are.

Or be fake (limit yourself/control yourself/change yourself) and people will get to know fake version of you 

 Depends on the root of your honesty. Is it for their benefit or yours? Is your truth objective or subjective?

Telling uncomfortable truths is a choice and does not always serve good. We are not simply logical beings but also emotional and spiritual. 

Certainly telling a happy burning person they are on fire is for their benefit. 

Alternatively, informing a confident stupid person who believes themself smart would be more for your benefit than theirs.

Informing a person that their child was sired by another man may be perceived by you to be of benefit, but a family can be destroyed and the acting father may lose a sense of connection with the child in the aftermath. 

 No the confident stupid people have been left unchecked too long and fucked everything up in the mean time. They need to be corrected or the community descends to their level. They are all confident til you lock your eyes on them and start asking questions. 

 Me too but I have a huge gob. 

 ah ye

fair 

 Big fax bro master the art of silence and non verbal coms 

 hmm 

 Be the last one to speak 

 why? 

 Meh. 8 billion people in the world and only 20 or so are my us. what are the odds any new people I meet make the cut? Say your piece homie. Their opinion of you does not matter. They didnt exist in your universe 5 seconds before you encountered them. They will cease to exist again as soon as you brush them. Say your piece. Don't stop.