Oddbean new post about login | logout Bro gentle parenting is so cringe lol I’m listening to a mother have a struggle session with her unruly toddler, sometimes you just gotta pick these kids up and be like cut the shit.
Hahaha yes 🙌 Whenever we’re out in public and see kids acting like that my son will glance over at me like “wtf is going on” because he knows I don’t tolerate any of that from him 😂
Same lol we are loving parents but we don’t tolerate bullshit.
This is the way 😂🫡
What do you do to “keep them in line” please elaborate
Kids can tell when you're thinking about how to kill them and get away with it.
It all starts with the understanding that they’re the children and you’re the adult, and although I love them with all of my heart, I am in charge of them. You set clear boundaries and enforce and reinforce them. As far as how boundaries are enforced and reinforced, it depends which kid, what they’ve done, and what has or hasn’t worked already. The biggest things are consistency and following through on your promises so they know to believe you when you say you’re going to do something. Whether you tell them you’re going to reward them or punish them, do it. It lets them know what to expect and makes it easier to deal with momentary bad behavior.
Bad take. Hitting kids is pretty shitty.
No one said anything about hitting kids.
nobody said hitting or did i mis/shit
What do you define as gentle parenting? I define it as not using violence or the threat of violence against your kids.
That’s not what it means at all G. Hitting children has been out of fashion for 40 years, gentle parenting in practice is an overly permissive or “soft” parenting style that avoids discipline or accountability, letting kids dictate family dynamics. It’s an inherently feminine framework that overemphasizes feelings and often results in kids who struggle with boundaries or who feel overly entitled. Gentle parenting is less as “nurturing” and more “avoiding conflict”, making the parent more of a “friend” than a figure who sets firm limits.
Ah ok I think we’re just disagreeing over definitions then. I’d describe that as permissive parenting. Can’t say I disagree with your original post now.
Most gentle parenting is permissive parenting in my experience, no practical difference.
I read OP the same way as you did, and obviously several others did too, who found it a good opportunity to advocate abuse. (And yes, deliberately inflicting pain = abuse.) Abuse can be non-physical too, by the way. Not going to write a wall-of-text about how here, but it can. I still have emotional/psychological scars from my childhood, from both non-physical and physical abuse (despite the latter being both illegal and generally frowned upon here), and even though it was not extreme, they do degrade my quality of life to a not insignificant extent. It doesn't "make you stronger", it may make it look like that to (a certain kind of) external observers, but from a first-person perspective, it only hurts and will likely do so for the rest of life.
I wish a kid would
There’s a lot I want to say, but these days fear somebody reading it and calling CPS. But yes, I agree with you.
I saw a neighbor allow her 5-6 year old son decide to not get on the bus to kindergarten on the second day of school. Children are not ready to make their own decisions about never leaving their comfort zone. Who’s the parent? I’m a parent of 4 from 4 years to 12 years old so I speak from experience.
The coddling of the American mind
Shake em
My mother: "I'll give you something to cry about" 80's parenting style didn't fuck around.
Yeah it’s hard. Unless its WILD behavior I try to give them a calm moment and gentle encouragement to chill and come back to reality, but you have to know that won’t work every time and sometimes you just have to firmly cut it off.