Oddbean new post about login | logout Bad take. Hitting kids is pretty shitty.
No one said anything about hitting kids.
nobody said hitting or did i mis/shit
What do you define as gentle parenting? I define it as not using violence or the threat of violence against your kids.
That’s not what it means at all G. Hitting children has been out of fashion for 40 years, gentle parenting in practice is an overly permissive or “soft” parenting style that avoids discipline or accountability, letting kids dictate family dynamics. It’s an inherently feminine framework that overemphasizes feelings and often results in kids who struggle with boundaries or who feel overly entitled. Gentle parenting is less as “nurturing” and more “avoiding conflict”, making the parent more of a “friend” than a figure who sets firm limits.
Ah ok I think we’re just disagreeing over definitions then. I’d describe that as permissive parenting. Can’t say I disagree with your original post now.
Most gentle parenting is permissive parenting in my experience, no practical difference.
I read OP the same way as you did, and obviously several others did too, who found it a good opportunity to advocate abuse. (And yes, deliberately inflicting pain = abuse.) Abuse can be non-physical too, by the way. Not going to write a wall-of-text about how here, but it can. I still have emotional/psychological scars from my childhood, from both non-physical and physical abuse (despite the latter being both illegal and generally frowned upon here), and even though it was not extreme, they do degrade my quality of life to a not insignificant extent. It doesn't "make you stronger", it may make it look like that to (a certain kind of) external observers, but from a first-person perspective, it only hurts and will likely do so for the rest of life.