Bro gentle parenting is so cringe lol

I’m listening to a mother have a struggle session with her unruly toddler, sometimes you just gotta pick these kids up and be like cut the shit.


TRUTH


:Gigachad:


It’s because we have too many low-T soy betas out there.


Hahaha yes 🙌 Whenever we’re out in public and see kids acting like that my son will glance over at me like “wtf is going on” because he knows I don’t tolerate any of that from him 😂


Bad take. Hitting kids is pretty shitty.


I wish a kid would


fwiw kids of gentle parenting are not gentle with other kids. Quite the opposite.

gentle parenting is I’m-not-dealing-with-problems-because-I’m-not-engaged parenting.


No one said anything about hitting kids.


There’s a lot I want to say, but these days fear somebody reading it and calling CPS. But yes, I agree with you.


nobody said hitting or did i mis/shit


I saw a neighbor allow her 5-6 year old son decide to not get on the bus to kindergarten on the second day of school.

Children are not ready to make their own decisions about never leaving their comfort zone. Who’s the parent?

I’m a parent of 4 from 4 years to 12 years old so I speak from experience.


LOVE FROM UTAH 🧡


What do you define as gentle parenting? I define it as not using violence or the threat of violence against your kids.


Onward 🫡


That’s not what it means at all G.

Hitting children has been out of fashion for 40 years, gentle parenting in practice is an overly permissive or “soft” parenting style that avoids discipline or accountability, letting kids dictate family dynamics.

It’s an inherently feminine framework that overemphasizes feelings and often results in kids who struggle with boundaries or who feel overly entitled.

Gentle parenting is less as “nurturing” and more “avoiding conflict”, making the parent more of a “friend” than a figure who sets firm limits.


Same lol we are loving parents but we don’t tolerate bullshit.


Exactly


This is the way 😂🫡


their excuse every time will be “let kids be kids”


with Love, tuff love if necessary. training/teaching with patience & positive strategies that work with lifeforms. i never hit my kids in a physical form.   or animals under my care


What do you do to “keep them in line” please elaborate


Snatch em' up real stern always gets em.


Its terrible. Saw a something similar the other day. The parents need parenting


The coddling of the American mind


Ah ok I think we’re just disagreeing over definitions then. I’d describe that as permissive parenting. Can’t say I disagree with your original post now.


火


Kids can tell when you're thinking about how to kill them and get away with it.


"While I understand your perspective, I think it’s important to consider the complexities of parenting and discipline. Everyone has different experiences and views. Let's keep the conversation respectful! 🤝"


Most gentle parenting is permissive parenting in my experience, no practical difference.


Those types of parents tend to get walked over by their children.


Shake em


My Mom would whoop a neighborhood if she had too! No shit, should could give the meanest limp wrist floppy backhand that would crack everyone in the back seat and clip the neighbor kid sitting against the glass of the back hatch.


It all starts with the understanding that they’re the children and you’re the adult, and although I love them with all of my heart, I am in charge of them. You set clear boundaries and enforce and reinforce them. As far as how boundaries are enforced and reinforced, it depends which kid, what they’ve done, and what has or hasn’t worked already. The biggest things are consistency and following through on your promises so they know to believe you when you say you’re going to do something. Whether you tell them you’re going to reward them or punish them, do it. It lets them know what to expect and makes it easier to deal with momentary bad behavior.


Yes. This 👆🏾


lol no dick, bad dick


There are exceptions to every rule, and I tend to be a big fan of civility, but to me, treating others better than they treat you, or third parties, sounds and awful lot like treating others better than they deserve to be treated.


Thanks for the response. I’m def in the minority with my parenting values.


“Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.”

Proverbs 13:24


Onward 🫡


My mother: "I'll give you something to cry about" 80's parenting style didn't fuck around.


I read OP the same way as you did, and obviously several others did too, who found it a good opportunity to advocate abuse. (And yes, deliberately inflicting pain = abuse.) Abuse can be non-physical too, by the way. Not going to write a wall-of-text about how here, but it can.

I still have emotional/psychological scars from my childhood, from both non-physical and physical abuse (despite the latter being both illegal and generally frowned upon here), and even though it was not extreme, they do degrade my quality of life to a not insignificant extent. It doesn't "make you stronger", it may make it look like that to (a certain kind of) external observers, but from a first-person perspective, it only hurts and will likely do so for the rest of life.


Yeah it’s hard. Unless its WILD behavior I try to give them a calm moment and gentle encouragement to chill and come back to reality, but you have to know that won’t work every time and sometimes you just have to firmly cut it off.


Does hitting to you include “spanking” at any level?


Yeah be an alpha male, beat them kids   👑


Who said beat kids?


That's a problem.


Check out www.peacefulparenting.com

It’s a book on this subject, I found it phenomenal.