Oddbean

but like AK and Sikto are saying, we are often sitting in our own corner. I guess I find it funny that often I am watching a few of you say to the newbies, oh we are much nicer here...so the newbie does their thing, gets harassed and expressing their concern, only to be met with "grow some skin"...its like we butter them up and then tell them to get over it

Ok I hear you however; - I personally have never said we are much nicer over here, I have said that this is the future of social media - also, I am yet to see any harassment towards any newbies. Not saying that it doesn’t happen however I have personally not seen it, feel free to tag me into some - I don’t butter anyone up, people need to learn how to navigate social media and at least here they have the opportunity to mute and move on. If you are going to allow every single negative comment or interaction affect your life, then sadly you will lead a very isolated life. Life is full of ups and downs, real life as well and it’s up to us in how we choose to respond to what happens around us.

- Those that are reading this (not you) should note to let newbies know what we are nice and there are assholes here so if you want to reach out to me when it gets tough, let me know then we will help - i believe this whole conversation started with kayla so this is the first example. i personally had to mute people because of harassment. and i am not even doing anything to them. - i didnt mean you personally about buttering up, but others (if you are reading this). i feel many people around the world live an isolated life because we often ignore their cries and tell them to toughen up. we are not giving them the help to navigate the experience. i guess what i am saying is we need to listen to people's concerns and then help them navigate into safer waters

I think the others are safer. it would be impossible for me to see any women hating content on let's say, Instagram, because they have an algorithm there. all I ever see is cat pics and knitting photos. the algo has taken years to learn about me and has put me in a very safe bubble of content that I want to see. that's the deal with nostr though, isn't it. Because there is no algorithm here, a person sees everything and they themselves are responsible for curating their content. each person has to find their tribe to feel a sense of belonging and acceptance, otherwise they don't see the value of nostr as a social network and they leave. the state of nostr right now is that the user population is low and the majority of users are men. Good, socialized, well-meaning men but also some are very poorly socialized men who are attracted by cutting edge tech, radical politics and fringe economics. People tend to bubble up with those like them. Other social medias do very well keeping the boundaries of these groups very strong via algorithms. Two people can be really into fitness but the gym bros and the granola yogis will rarely cross paths. nostr doesnt have strong boundaries because there's no algorithm. the big bubbles bully the smaller ones. Eventually they pop and disappear because no one wants to stay in a space where they're unwelcome. Instead of implementing tech tools to mimic social control, it is more important for the longevity and growth of nostr to draw more different types of people in. We need to help and grow the minor bubbles so that there isn't an overpowering majority. I think that is when we'll have much safer spaces on nostr.

I think I've written more words on nostr today than I have in the past 6 months. nostr:nevent1qqsxdg5nnesn6frgc8l3n40gpdkn8fzy08dmlfh7g6z5r2f69x6lfuqpz3mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfdupzq94atn5yh8n44lcq7pkhr72x0e3d5wypx95d5j9ca6mt4hjlhyunqvzqqqqqqyev9ves

Great note my friend. Been thinking this over the last week, just not able to articulate it quite as well as yourself. I'm a massive bitcoin fan and have been stacking Sat's. That said, I also don't have an issue with other cryptos and do hold some of the more promising projects. I'd also like to be able to talk sport, music etc. The issue I see is that if your not chatting only bitcoin or steaks, you are not welcome here. From what I've seen anyway. This doesn't seem to fit in with the adoption that everyone wants. Just my opinion so far. Hope to be proven wrong soon.