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 Talk to any woman on Nostr: @roya ୨୧, @angela, @M. K. Fain , and others. I get homophobic comments on my threads and death threaths in my DM’s. It doesn’t stop me from using Nostr, but it doesn’t give me warm fuzzy feelings either. 

We’ve heard from a bunch of people who’ve stopped using Nostr because they didn’t like getting harrassed. It’s a problem but not one which tends to be visible to straight guys who are excited about bitcoin and meat.  
 There’s always haters! Inversely, on all other platforms, white meat eating and Bitcoin loving personas are harassed. It’s not great to see anywhere, just noting that many stereotypes suffer different levels of harassment on different platforms. 

It will get better as more people on board 🤝 hopefully 😅 
 I am rather critical of Bitcoin(ers) in many respects, and similarly there are many maximalists who will "attack" me for being critical of their beliefs because I don't fit in with their ideals. It's not my problem people choose to maintain a surface-level bias without trying to gain a better understanding of someone's position. 
 I have never insulted you for your personal beliefs or way of life, but yet you couldn't help yourself with a personal jab at me, largely based on preconceived assumptions, all because we have differing opinions on how this could be approached in a more productive manner which more people could get on board with. That is no different to how others have treated you, which I have witnessed. It's not a good look, it doesn't help your position as it suggests you are acting in bad faith, but I understand that you may feel personally attacked here so I choose not to take your remarks personally, however, engaging (albeit mildly) in the same fashion is only going to lead to unsavoury exchanges.

I don't want to stir up drama with anyone, especially not as a random going around demanding women prove their harassment to me, putting them on the back foot, and likely making them feel further harassed.

Perhaps, if you considered looking at other ways to work on solving the problem, you may even gain support from people who do not agree with how you are trying to tackle this issue at present. Nostr is innovating, but from our perspective, you are attempting to employ the very same strategies which have failed other platforms and lead to the creation of this one, and I personally believe these won't succeed here either.
 
 @Sovereign Bear, All i know about you is that you’re in to bitcoin and you haven’t personally seen harassment on Nostr. I don’t know if you’re straight or like meat. ;-D There are after all queer vegan bitcoiners. From your avatar and username, I can guess your politics probably lean libertarian.  I didn’t intent to insult you in my post pointing out some people who have been harassed, just that different people can experience the same space very differently. 

I think we need to work on make spaces that people can govern themselves becuase without self management of our shared public spheres then we’ll face arguments for corporations or the state to do it for us. Not everybody has the same issues or needs the same tools.  
 For the record I have no dog in the fight of how you choose to make tools on your client.

We agree self government provides greater justice

Where we would disagree seems to be in how often targeted harassment should be attributed to coordinated machine-aided agenda and non-persons rather than real authentic hateful people with extra time and no other incentive than a hate-filled heart

We also might disagree about how reporting should be implemented on various scales

I would like for my children to report on each other but it doesn't feel great when they do

I don't report people but would tag posts and accounts with my opinions to help my friends heuristics in a WOT environment

But I wonder about those slippery slopes

IOW we're in the same boat. 
 I'm into Bitcoin in the same way I am into nostr. I think they are great tools that have the potential to allow people to express themselves without limits imposed by others who do not share the same beliefs. I imagine you may be here for some of the same reasons, where we share some common ground. But I am heavily critical of the direction bitcoin is headed in, which is evident by what I have to say about it in my notes, not just what is in my profile. In fact, I would wager if someone was to summarise my posts about it, they may draw the conclusion that I have grown disappointed in its current state and the people who claim to champion what it initially set out to achieve. I would hate to see the same happen to this protocol.

I understand that you are working on solutions to make this platform more usable for everyone, and as unlikely as it may seem I appreciate that you would offer up your time and skills to do so. I would however be lying if I said I don't have some concerns about how you are approaching it, as do others. Of course harassment exists in many forms on nostr, I simply have not witnessed it in a blatant fashion as previously outlined. Perhaps I need to look harder, and perhaps I am somewhat oblivious to it. I fully agree with your second paragraph. 👍 
 Why do you need to see the harassment to believe people are being harassed? This is a nonsensical take. There’s plenty of things in life you’re not privy to nor experienced, thus you don’t believe any of them because you haven’t experienced them? I’d bet my life that’s not true, if you were an honest person you would admit there’s several things you believe in your time on this planet that you did not directly experience. You keep bringing about tools or better directions yet, you’ve failed to mention them. Thus, you come across as complaining just because you don’t like it with nothing constructive to offer. 
 I have mentioned them in the past on this topic, there is no point in rehashing that yet again just for your benefit. Just read further up the chain.

I am an honest person, did you even read what I wrote in the note you responded to? Did you intentionally ignore the point where I stated that there is harassment? The point I was contesting is how prevalent it really is which would warrant this. You've just into the discussion with no knowledge of what has been addressed on the topic, making up a bunch of assumptions and then making character assassinations. Hilarious. 
 Stop being a giant faggot, and people will treat you better.  
 Stop being a giant asshole, and people will stop muting you. 
 it's ok to say he's a socialist tho 🗡️  
 He looks like a person and not a massive bundle of sticks to me. 
You, on the other hand, look like a child who thinks he's big and bad behind a computer screen but I bet your mommy still has to go through your phone and computer to make sure you're not looking at naughty things. Go suckle at the tit, little one. The adults are talking.  
 I’m sorry but… getting harassed? That’s literally all that happens on places like X and Facebook.. and even worse most the time on those platforms. 
 i have never gotten harassed on any social media, even thought my twitter account is bigger than my nostr. just because it doesn’t happen to you doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. it’s way more frequent and insane on here. it’s not a good thing. 
 This is the only place in my life that I’ve been called a N multiple times. Same re: one or two people sending a  DM saying they’d rape me. 
 Fundamentally, this is an inherent issue that cannot be "fixed" regardless of the platform. It is a facet of human nature, with social media serving as the medium that makes it more visible than ever. 
 This happened so often in the past. The N word bomb as proof of freedom of speech, the negation of the colonic interpretation, the conscious acceptance of retraumatization and the demand: hey, don't be so sensitive. It came from „nobody“ as well as known Devs, male and female. There’s also hardcore racist catholics beliefs ( don’t mix races it’s unworthy in the eye of god) who really  believe that they are humanities saviours, and have moral powers. Truly never! read such uneducated BS. 
 I'm sorry, if someone said that to you 😔, but "mixed marriages" in Catholicism refers to Catholics marrying non-Catholics. 

The Catholic Church has actually been one of the main forces in overturning antimiscegnation laws, worldwide, including in such famous cases as Loving because marital racism denies the universal priesthood and the sacramental nature of marriage.

Anyone claiming otherwise has not been properly catechized. 
 I don't know what client you use, but on the one I use, Amethyst (on Android), you can add "hidden words" to filter out messages and posts with the N's.  
 This is the only way.; self moderation. Don’t ever let someone else do that for you or you end up with trash like Twatter. 
 Réellement ? Désolée de devoir faire avec le manque de bon sens, savoir-être ..question d'éducation de valeurs éducatives..nul n'a ce droit sur autrui..
Usez peut-être des subtilités de la communication écrite telle que par recadrage qui peut être aidant dans tels circonstances..
Dans mon secteur d'activités pour éviter que des collègues très competents dans notre domaine d'expertise auprès de publics en souffrance réelle liées à certaines pathologies d'ordre psychique voire cognitif il a fallu mettre en place des formations spécifiques sur le décodage et le repérage des mots en communication  écrite ou verbale cela permet à la fois de se protéger et d'aider notre public à se rendre compte de leurs problématiques et des retentissements de leurs comportements dont la plupart des simples mortels qui les accompagnent souffrent infine et refusent catégoriquement de les accompagner..
Dans notre  équipe je me trompe malheureusement à devoir accompagner tous ces publics dits difficiles mais c'est épuisant pour les professionnels en psychiatrie, psychopathologies, qui finissent en Burnout à force de se retrouver constamment à ne plus pouvoir contenir la violence d'une communication venant de divers publics en souffrance réelle   🤍🤍🫂 
 I’ve never been harassed or threatened on my socials but I have on nostr. 
 Sorry I'm a bit confused. Are you a person who is homosexual? 
 @CraigTheSpaceBum

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