Oddbean new post about login | logout What do you do when your senior coworker (not boss) is a complete ass and control freak? We just don't even talk or look at each other anymore. Hes the only person in my whole company with an attitude towards me I'm indifferent, but worry if he does someday become my supervisor #asknostr #grownostr #work
If he becomes your superior and makes life hell, I'd find a job somewhere else, life's too short to put up with unnecessary BS. It's what I did and have no regrets.
Thank you I appreciate your input
Even better, plan a side hussle that allows you to step away from being an employee. Any gripes you have about your job can drive after-hours work toward more independence.
I guess my side hustle is BTC stacking and asset accumulation 😅😅
Did you disagree with him too much? It often happens to me that I disagree with higher ranks, then I get unfriendly behavior from them
Perhaps But I take it as arrogance and projection more than anything. The entire department agrees he has issues I feel like I'm a mirror, bringing out the worst qualities in himself
A beautiful realization. What do you wish to mirror to him?
Not sure. I'm always cool as a cucumber and he hates it He is rather intelligent and talented, but aggressive and holds grudges permanently to his disadvantage
Sometimes when I see someone reflecting what I don’t want, I remind myself that this behavior is a south star, and use it to find my bearing back to my north stars (what I want).
I think he sees me cool headed, and thus realizes that he is not.
Ask them how they feel about ₿. Also ask a favor of them, they will feel important and like they want to be friends. Befriend the enemy
Don’t know what coworker is dealing with in their private life. Ask why they are micromanaging you. If it is like quality control, shortcut or a tip of the trade listen to them. If they are only problematic move on.
It's 10% quality control 90% his overbearing lion personaility
Bringing food to the office often mends differences.
Yeah , I did try that. didn't help
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Highly recommend this book for dealing with these type of situations. Completely changed the way I approach work colleagues. https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second
Thank you I really appreciate it.
No problem. Good luck.
I don't know how long this has been going on, but yeah if it was me... I'd have 2 options. Wait for something to change and hopefully improve or be the change. You likely have more opportunities than you think... Other jobs, self employment, professional nostrich
There are other opportunities nearby, but changing jobs is dreadful and gives me actual PTSD
Cross that bridge when you get your it. But there’s no way around a toxic boss who doesn’t give a rats about you. It will steal your life force. No matter how put together you are. Your environment matters to your health. I learned the hard way. 2x crazy ass bosses and my health took a huge deep dive in 5 months. And I’m a self leader with strong boundaries & even stronger self worth. 💪🏽 It didn’t make a difference. Because when we put up with bullshit, we move into a dance with OURSELVES Do we have the courage and skills to call it out and even move on to greener pastures. The strategy of putting our head in the sand or just trying to cope with it DOES NOT WORK. It only delays the pain created by not giving yourself what you need to stay in alignment. Good luck with this and hope that never happens. 🤞🏽
This post made me sad 🥺 because it's the truth