Oddbean

I met my best friend in high school. it's been decades now. we've had periods of time where we saw each other daily and other times when we didn't talk to each other at all. The friends I spend the most time with now are through my husband. his bestie from college and his wife. his other college friends. Husband is much better at socializing and maintaining friendships. I met my husband pretty late in life and we met through online dating. So I guess that counts?

oof I don't know anymore. I used OKCupid but I think that isn't good anymore. with online dating it is really important to write your profile to attract the kind of person you want to be with. also, good photos are important. I could go on and on about online dating tips tbh. most importantly, you have to know yourself and what kind of life you want to share with another person.

I found my husband on OkC too, but got off the site in the midst of Covid; they were starting to make some odd changes at the time, but as far as I know it’s still the best one. There’s a lot of room for improvement, but it did work for me and @boatingaccident

Met my bestie in school, we've had ups and downs, but we now have a relationship that we both need in our lives right now. She's 4 hrs away so we rarely see each other. Met the people I hang out with most now at the cigar lounge. These people we met in mid-twenties, is that later? 😂

Lol, it's all about perspective I guess. I will say that I definitely converse back and forth with my nostr pals more on a daily basis than I have ever talked IRL, or any other social media, except with my hubs or bestie.

I'm also 4 hours away from my bestie and hardly ever see them. we try to make an effort to do a yearly trip but who knows if it'll happen this year or next cuz we're both super busy. I miss the youthful days when we could just be like "Vegas? this weekend? yeah? yeah. pick you up Friday after work."

speaking of friendship, who is your nostr bestie? what friends have you made through nostr? nostr:nevent1qqsz7apugtjw6gqeynwn87tv6yvwf6sn0jpnp5cmg8gtxvrw0n4tvsqpz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduhsygx2sm244dpx65k7zueyz0tfhxcmqca8nqyk3w9kjc663xjk9tcmaspsgqqqqqqspq8krp

I met my current best friend as part of a running group about 10 years ago. I have no IRL friends that I spend most of my time with, but get to meetup with my best friend a few times a year. Im not in touch with any of my childhood friends.

I think I have a friend who I can say is my best friend now and I met her online, in a telegram group. we've never met, but we have deep conversations and we talk everyday since 2020. it's hard for me to keep in touch with people who won't be able to be vulnerable and talk to me about their feelings. I have other friends who send me long audios about how they are feeling and I answer whenever I can, and we keep in touch like this, each one talking when they can. I love these people and this kind of relationship. some of them I met in a pregnant woman's meeting (I wanted to become a doula and learn more about this universe before I got pregnant). some of them I met online and then we met in person. some of them I met in college. these ones I met between 10 and 13 years ago. I had those friends who I met at school when I was ten, and I love them, but I never felt like I belonged in the relationship with them. my sister is a great friend of mine. we are very different in many aspects, but we are great together. I wanted her with me when I gave birth to both of my children, and she patiently waited. I think a lot about friendships. I'd love to hear your story too, Eryn! and I'm also curious about what were you thinking when you asked this questions.

Mostly why I asked is I know an older person who has not kept strong ties with their friends and is feeling really lonely now. They’re finally trying to get out of their shell, but not very satisfied with their progress, and still very lonely. I’m wondering what kinds of things to recommend they do that they aren’t already doing.

1. Ex girlfriends, College, roommates and Facebook of all places 2. ^ 3. I'm not later in life yet, but hoping to make friends with more similar interests at this point in life for sure. I don't get to see my closest friends all that often, one lives on the other side of the US, and the other about 200 miles south.