I found my husband on OkC too, but got off the site in the midst of Covid; they were starting to make some odd changes at the time, but as far as I know it’s still the best one. 
There’s a lot of room for improvement, but it did work for me and nostr:npub1jrx2fk666k5nt8vgak9xwyxlgcwh8fl9rvpwvvcpdthuqkcnptrqdfhtaq