Oddbean

Dating today must be hard. I’m not 40 but dating apps weren’t a thing when I was dating. You had to actually meet people first before you decided to meet them. It was always sort of an accident. (Except if you’re set up).

I was only teasing, honestly it’s not so bad 🫂 Meeting people naturally through serendipity will always be unmatched to me too, but I always get happy when I hear of partners meeting on apps, I suppose there’s a lot of chance in that too 🫂

Is like an endless circle of people ghosting people who will ghost them. Fed by unrealistic expectations thanks (probably) to algoritmic social networks. Also the "consumer paradox"; having so many options is makes choice difficult and boosting regret after choosing. And who knows how many new and unforseen effects are at play. It is quite a challenge to choose wisely nowadays with the (somewhat real) feeling that there allways be something better just around the corner, the next match maybe

Eshara ma chère... Tous ces auteurs que que tu as cités contrairement à vous mettez sur votre note ont écrit sur l'amour sous les angles: leur sentiments, leurs maux, leurs, joies , bonheur, mélancolie; frustration, manque, solitude etc merveilleusement et bizarre que vous les situez à ces dernières époques ...de grands maîtres sur cette thématique d'ordre naturel entre 2 êtres que certains d'autres aient la chance de vivre un instant, un temps sur la durée voire éphémère...Vous savez j'espère que nous nous retrouverons dans quelles années à reparler de qu'est l'amour..Le texte en lui même et les auteurs à l'epoque il n'y avait pas l'amour scénarisé....j'ai eu à 9 ans des livres de Shakespeare dans l'anglais de l'époque que une certaine génération d'aujourd'hui du mal à interpréter...des pures chef d'oeuvres collections de la petite sœur de maman, qui était ma marraine.' Quant à l'amour en sociologie on vous convainvrzut *qu'on ne se marie pour amour* depuis la nuit de notre histoire du *3me Chimpanzé* dans nos sociétés..les *Romeo et Juliette* sont rares ...nous sommes des animaux nous nous mettons ensemble pour créer et prolonger notre espèce, notamment durant nos périodes de gestation...Sorry avec regret je le dis puisque dernièrement j'ai éprouvé, et souffert de l'amour et je pense que j'aurais pour des années à moins de ressaisir et j'en ai reçu des mots qui mériteraient d'être encadrés dans tout foyer ...C'est une chance que 2 êtres se rencontrent et éprouvent des trucs indescriptibles à vouloir* fermer les yeux et ne les jamais les réouvrir...ce sentiment d'être qu'un est un *cadeau* d'une rareté chez notre espèce...Il n'a pas besoin de l'expliquer, ni d'en parler mais les vivre naturellement...c'est n''explicable pas besoin de mots ...Vous embrasse...câlins à tous ... subjectivement nostr

Hey beautiful Ava 🫂 I’m so sorry you’re hurting 🫂🫂🫂 if you want, I can sort the person out 💪🏽you say the word and I’ll drop the person in the river Thames for you 💜 You are a rare beauty on the inside and out 🫂 all will be well 🙏🏽 Kendrick Lamar and Ed Sheeran are also great poets happily in love of this time period 🥹🫂 everyday people usually express themselves privately in love, which is the best way. We are animals I agree lovely 💯🫂 this is just my opinion but humans tend to be curiously creative by nature. We have our animal needs but we also think differently to our fellow animals. Some of us dream so big, too. I agree, lovely, he doesn’t have to 🫂 people love differently and that’s great 💜 nobody has to use poetry if they don’t want to, that’s just one of my ways of communicating love. Love however you want 💜

These I agree are definitely love languages, I can’t argue with you. That being said, I like to hear how a guy feels. Poetry is a great way to just write what you feel. I guess everyone is different, and we each have our own preferences of showing and receiving love. Some people hate poetry, and though I don’t understand it, it’s fair 🫂 I agree that actions are love languages too 💯% not gonna dispute that, but I still adore poetry and the feeling it gives me. If action is the stable, secure, warm, safe, foundational language of love, maybe poetry is the diamond necklace. That little extra something that makes her feel beautiful and cherished. She can keep your words in her diary and reread them when she’s old and her memory isn’t great. A bit of you and your feelings to keep forever, incase she ever lost you. But this is my personal view on poetry and why I like it 🫂 you guys are right, it’s not the only love language 🙏🏽 but I do believe it is a language of love (for me, and those who want it)

You're definitely confusing the idea of what true love ACTUALLY is with what society and centralized media have told you what it should be. Real life is not Hollywood. I don't know a single man (myself included) that will take the time out of his day to sit down and write a poem for the woman he is in love with. How he treats her, how they solve problems together, how they work together to achieve their life goals, and how tolerant they are of each other's imperfections is the "language of love." Trust me, I know.

You said it yourself… you don’t know one man who would take time out of his day The things you mention are vital. They are the essential parts of the relationship. But one of the several reasons poetry is something some people appreciate is that it indicates someone took time out of their day to focus on you. To think about how you make them feel, and want to share that with you in a beautiful way. They wanted to make something beautiful in your honor. It’s a diamond necklace indeed. You can’t build a relationship out of diamond necklaces; not all poets make good spouses. But a good spouse who does things like that as well is not something to be trivialized, but treasured and emulated.

Hey, Sweetie, Thank you for reading, and for expressing your appreciation.🙏🏻😃🫂💖 I haven't yet published the fictional story that goes with it, but you've encouraged me to finish polishing it and to "get it out there!"🚀😆 Thanks🙏🏻😃🫂🔥!

Hello, Fren! I'm glad to meet another lover of sonnets...🫂😃💜 It took the better part of a lifetime between memorizing the Bard's #29, and the day I penned my first sonnet; but I've now penned a few.🤔🧐😆👍

beautiful choice~! for me, it's sonnet 12... but friendship, acceptance, love—these connections are the true wealth of life and what gives it meaning. it's incredible the sense of placement and belonging the love of another can bring us. i've written other types of poems, but i find comfort in the structure that the sonnet provides. they're usually my better work—at least when i go back and read them i don't cringe (as much). writing is something i've done off and on for awhile. why do you think you waited so long to write??

I am lost in the Sea of sadness wondering how ever move past this. How is life different than a maze? As I look at tomorrow through a crystal ball, I gaze. I see myself chipper and happy. Yet, currently I can’t feel anything just crappy. You can never have everything you want. But the same holds true that you get what you need. So you gotta set out and simply search. Free yourself like a morning bird, chirping on a perch . Singing songs that free the soul. Feeling like you’re rocking and ready to roll. I’m starting to understand my situation . Knowing it’s not the worst relation.

If the poetry you share with your love can possibly be confused with AI romantic quotes, you’re doing it wrong. The point is for it to be meaningful and relevant to your relationship. If the appreciation for poetry isn’t there in either partner, for sure don’t try. But don’t dis the people who get it right; some really do.

I completely agree with this. Stereotypes play too large a role nowadays when choosing a partner. But, it's not true love and I fear fewer and fewer will never have the chance to experience it if they don't rid themselves of the outright stupid expectations that these stereotypes have embedded into society.