nostr:nprofile1qqsyvrp9u6p0mfur9dfdru3d853tx9mdjuhkphxuxgfwmryja7zsvhqpzamhxue69uhhv6t5daezumn0wd68yvfwvdhk6tcpz9mhxue69uhkummnw3ezuamfdejj7qgwwaehxw309ahx7uewd3hkctcscpyug is there a way to force-refresh lists? Some have vanished and I'm unable to bring them back. 

 Do you know which relays they were saved? 

Ideally you just need to move them to your Outbox/Home relays. 

 dtonon.nostr1.com and other relay in my 10002 list, that ate already in the outbox/home section. Example:

https://njump.me/nevent1qqsyqm8463r3rz2vfln507a0axdvlmdst667h0uvfvw9h5n3ufppr2sprpmhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wdmksetjv5hxxmmdqy28wumn8ghj7un9d3shjtnyv9kh2uewd9hsygrmmmmmugka3evlgcqwq3922wsul966nhrayl04svauwldhsjjcq5ac3zux

Maybe is  the problem related to the fact that some lists are encrypted? 

 Are you using Amber by any chance? Amethyst will request Amber to decrypt every time the event comes from any relay