dtonon.nostr1.com and other relay in my 10002 list, that ate already in the outbox/home section. Example:

https://njump.me/nevent1qqsyqm8463r3rz2vfln507a0axdvlmdst667h0uvfvw9h5n3ufppr2sprpmhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wdmksetjv5hxxmmdqy28wumn8ghj7un9d3shjtnyv9kh2uewd9hsygrmmmmmugka3evlgcqwq3922wsul966nhrayl04svauwldhsjjcq5ac3zux

Maybe is  the problem related to the fact that some lists are encrypted? 

 Are you using Amber by any chance? Amethyst will request Amber to decrypt every time the event comes from any relay