Too white, sorry.  

 My off the cuff theory is that dancing is deeply tied to localized culture (often ethnic culture). Dancing was a major part of community life for ages, but with modernity came the fragmentation, even decimation, of localized community life. How many people work, shop, socialize, and go to church primarilly in their immediate community? How man people know their neighbors? How many people deeply engage in the social and civic life of their town? How many people receive an inheritance of community knowledge, which would include HOW to dance?
 
I'm guessing this began post industrial revolution when men began leaving the home for work. Cars, television, women entering the corporate workforce, and young people incentivised to move to major cities all likely accelerated the death of dancing as well. 

All this said, there are still subcultures across the US where people still get together to dance. I've been in some. Lindy and swing communities, churches that have balls and dancing functions where singles can meet, etc.  

 Because of #shameculture I would say. I grew up where most people rather giggle at failures and see them as something one should be ashamed of.

I think this is very sad. Since in my opinion failing fast is the fastest way to grow. Therefore I think societies, where failing fast is seen as something positive can be much happier. Since one learns to appreciate failure for all the lessons one can learn from a failure. And even others can profit from my failures too, if they analyze well aht went wrong for what reason. 

 But I am sorry to go too far from the topic. But in short I beleave it is that many people are shy to stand out from the crowd. I rather appreciate the space I have to dance, since many do not see to want to dance 🤪 

 I wholeheartedly feel that about the shame culture. That was everyone in my hometown. If you stood out, you were the asshole, you were the guy who thought he was better than everybody, you thought you were special, you were the snowflake and everybody would make actual effort to knock you down. I had never connected those dots but it kind of tracks that they aren't mutually exclusive. A sort of pessimism, both your own actions ("I can't dance") and toward others ("They're only doing that for attention. That prick thinks he's soo cool but nuh uh.") 
It follows too that negativity is easier than positivity. When I'm alone, I'm having imaginary arguments in my head, imagining telling someone what's what or making points about something that someone won't accept or something. Then I think "Why am I butthurt about literally nothing?" I think it's because bitterness comes from memory and positivity takes effort, making up the future is energy intensive, so we go to the easiest mindset to get the biggest rush. 
A joke gets less funny the more you hear it, we become immune to happiness in a sense. But anger is an endless flow of chemical stimulation of the brain. You can stay mad for a lifetime and I think all of these are part of why so many people do. 

 I think the seed many people need, is that we missinterprete many things everyday. So to sometimes just turn off the "what think the others"-mechanism and turn on more the compass of "what do I want to achieve?"

And I think this story of the two wolves we have to think of more often:
https://njump.me/nevent1qqs8m0pgumn3h7dze8etmcffkygdm352kr68ghn0fd9ryfl67nt0rrcpz9mhxue69uhkummnw3ezuamfdejj7q3qkl8e7s48j6cfr6zrmn53n5l0fsxustszj3fwmu9ahn0tnm9e8euqxpqqqqqqz7y8jje

 

 If it's up your alley, read the Coddling of the American Mind. Talks about mental distortions like catastrophizing, the us vs them mentality, the view that the world is them vs us and a really keen view of how safe spaces and reliance on "the professionals" came to be so prevalent. Gripping stuff.  

 I currently have a lot of stuff to read. And I do read slow and not that many hours a week. So probably I will not take the time to read it. But I hope in a year or so I have capacity to accept book recommendation. 

 I love dancing and grew up to perform in school. I'd say for me, it's not that I stop dancing but rather I am careful of the frequency of the music that I listen. Each note vibrates at different frequency and invokes certain emotions. But I do dance to very selective music. ❤️