Yeah I agree, and I believe it's more complicated also because in the last six months number of features increased exponentially and Nostr evolved.

replyguy was a big thing and a problem for basically all users.. somehow, fixed now even for normies.

Discover ability for example now is thousands times better thanks to latest primal update and many clients will copy or upgrade that so all protocol will benefit from it and that was one of the main issues for nostr usage by popular opinion.

In the end, I am positive on hiw things are changing and keeping up with all of it I agree is super challenging and overwhelming, but it's early and everyone will focus on what they need most and learn what they need if they have the right incentives to do so. 

 Agreed. But sometimes I just get this arghhhhhhh gfy feeling when trying to fix or improve things from the user side. We're absolutely early and I believe that eventually features like DM's will work "out of the box" and perhaps we'll find a way for users to just use their paid relays in their app config to experience the vast variety of nostr features. 

 Paid relays will never solve the problem. I'm not paying for everyone's relay use and neither is anyone else but relay operators 

 Is the replyguy thing actually fixed or was it used as an excuse for filtering and censorship? 

 I thought about that when it happens.. absolutely true, it definitely could be an actor that settled it in order to than introduce the solution whom he'll benefit for.

Thing is, replyguy could have been created and would be  by anyone, and a solution would need to be found. Was the one they used the right one, I don't know, and not capable to create a better one, I can just decide to trust who built it and use it, or not. 

Optionability is what we have on #nostr.. you like it, you use it, otherwise you fork it or change it, or stop using it. It's all up to us and how much we want to engage and make a change.