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It feels a little bit corny to phrase it this way, but it really depends on how deep down the rabbit hole you want to go. The best option for self custody in my opinion is to run your own node, but if you're not ready for that step yet there are definitely some intermediary options that you can take.
Custody, privacy, sovereignty… things work in levels Having sole custody of private keys in a seed phrase is the most accessible Verifying the timechain and your own transactions and speaking Bitcoin to the network (running a node) is the next level
Please forgive the Shrek reference, but it has layers like an onion. 😅
So for instance, Zeus and Mutiny seem to be some of the top contenders for a more self-custodial style lighting wallet Both Zeus and Mutiny have some costs associated with setting up the wallet And that seems to be a turn off to some users, but that's kind of the price of dealing with lightning imo. Some people have moved to a wallet called Blixed, but I haven't used that myself, so I can't really vouch for it. Although I can say I have had issues sending to that wallet. I'm currently getting ready for work, so I don't really have time to answer anything super in-depth, but my DMs are always open if anyone has questions about stuff.