So for instance, Zeus and Mutiny seem to be some of the top contenders for a more self-custodial style lighting wallet Both Zeus and Mutiny have some costs associated with setting up the wallet And that seems to be a turn off to some users, but that's kind of the price of dealing with lightning imo. Some people have moved to a wallet called Blixed, but I haven't used that myself, so I can't really vouch for it. Although I can say I have had issues sending to that wallet.

I'm currently getting ready for work, so I don't really have time to answer anything super in-depth, but my DMs are always open if anyone has questions about stuff.