The journey into parenthood is difficult, heartbreaking, and a solid reminder that the world does not want us to have families. 

The phrase "If you can't afford this, you won't be able to afford a child" is thrown around a LOT by the people who are supposed to be there to help. I don't think lacking an 80,000 lump sum is a sure sign of abject poverty so much as just normalcy. 

The BASE cost of adopting a child in the US is on average $40,000 dollars, and this doesn't include any incidentals. 
The BASE cost of surrogacy for two men is going to be upwards of 200k. 

I hate that two people with decent, full-time jobs are not considered financially responsible enough to have a family. 

America sucks. This is not news. 

 I think what is breaking my heart most right now is that everything about finding or creating a child for an LGBTQ couple, particularly two men, is framed in TRAUMA. Adopting? Be aware of the abject trauma you are going to be pulled in on. Surrogacy? Be aware of the pain and suffering you are asking someone to take on for you. 

Can we sprinkle a little happiness and magic into the creation of our family, or are we not allowed to be happy?