The journey into parenthood is difficult, heartbreaking, and a solid reminder that the world does not want us to have families. 

The phrase "If you can't afford this, you won't be able to afford a child" is thrown around a LOT by the people who are supposed to be there to help. I don't think lacking an 80,000 lump sum is a sure sign of abject poverty so much as just normalcy. 

The BASE cost of adopting a child in the US is on average $40,000 dollars, and this doesn't include any incidentals. 
The BASE cost of surrogacy for two men is going to be upwards of 200k. 

I hate that two people with decent, full-time jobs are not considered financially responsible enough to have a family. 

America sucks. This is not news.