Two good reasons to talk to valuable friends about problems, neither of which are "unloading" or "venting" (which I agree is not helpful):
- seeking advice from someone whose opinion you value
- maintaining a networking of connections who care about each other doing well and know when one of their network is having a hard time

These are both action-oriented activities that prevent people from becoming isolated. Interestingly enough, a therapist provides neither in a genuine manner.  

 Sure, I agree. But my reply was direct response to OP and the idea "guys should not talk about emotions".  

 I like when people put things in quotes that I didn’t say. As if that’s my actual quote. 

 I put it in quotes as the essence of the message since you said men should not talk about problems but act. Since the underlying topic here are emotions really and what to do with them, I gave myself the freedom to pull out the topic and put it in the quotes. Sorry that triggered you somehow. No bad intentions from my side. You can be sure of that. 

 You’re quoting me though lol quote me accurately. Not your idea of what I said. 

 Another one: Never ever let your wife and kids see you cry, no matter how desperate and afraid you are.  (Tears of joy are OK.)  

 Yeah, but I wasn't quoting you but put the theme of the post under quotes. Like theme for an essay...geee 

 lol listen I’m not triggered, that’s just ya know… not how quotes work girl. 

We still frenz though ❤️ 

 Sure, all good.