Oddbean

Yikes ….Tread carefully my brotha …if y’all have multiple children close in age “stay at home mom” is not a cake walk ….imho…make sure this is gonna be ur forever wife and find a way to make it work…u know “death do us part” and all …if u ain’t sure then a prenup is the least of perspective problems🤷🏽‍♂️ I’ve spent 36 years teaching my lovely wife to live with disappointment…and we’ve always found a way to make it work😂🤣 My advice: 1) don’t fight…but u will…so 2) when u do fight fight fair…don’t drag up a bunch o crap from the past and don’t impulsively say some sh*t u can’t unsay…and 3) say “I love you” as often as u can and kiss her goodbye every morning…that is all…my 3 steps to a successful marriage (full disclosure: I’ve f*cked a lot of that stuff up but the Good Lord sent me someone with great coping skillz😊) Jus one idgits opinion

Definitely this is my forever woman. There are texts I have saved from when we were dating in the city about the homestead life I wanted to build and her saying how amazing that would be and here we are years later and I'm contemplating whether a milk cow would be a good wedding gift for her while I'm cooking sausage and eggs I raised from the ground. Tell me more about the stay at home life.

My opinion of a stay at home/trad wife may not apply to y’all’s actual experience but… imho if yall can pull it off ur kids and family will prolly be more connected and grounded The lack of second income will likely create friction at times and u may not always appreciate the amount of energy she will expend in the day to day raising of kids (…those lil turds can and will be a handful at times😳🤣) while juggling the other aspects of stay at home wife/mom. Is she gonna be cleaning?, doing most of the cooking?, any outside work(yard work, gardening, animals)? …if yes she’ll be a working “beast” although it’ll be hard to appreciate in terms of filthy fiat “status” I think (full disclosure: I’m an idgit and wrong a lot), if u are fortunate enuf to be able to afford it and y’all are a united front with realistic expectations, the long term benefits in terms of family unity and functionality will have been worth the sacrificed second income. …I work in a hospital and I still haven’t met a single person in the ICU that wishes they’d worked a few extra days/years…but there are plenty that wished they’d spent more time with family and frenz🤷🏽‍♂️ Good luck my digital fren🌅

Thanks. Yeah my salary alone is way more than the average and median household income and I work from home. So luckily I do farm chores morning noon and night and still can cover all of our expenses and invest. Definitely think the stay at home wife/mom is underrated hardwork

women never forget anything , always dredge up the past and they never fight fair. unless she is on a homested RIGHT NOW, she will never agree to anything less than luxury. 30% of all married women have a back up dude. 90% of all single women have a roster. Do not do anything without a prenup. Hide all your assets. ensure 20-30 years of poverty and struggle ... tell her ahead of time that you have little wealth. even still, marriages are slated for divorce. those that do not end in divorce are miserable.

She's on the farm now, runs the garden and does my chores with the animals if I travel or get sick. Has done this for nearly 3 years. When you get a prenup, you can't legally hide assets, or if you can, I'm too poor for that lol.