Oddbean new post about login | logout You are still young lovely π«π aw it was meant to be π₯Ή I always thought Iβd have my kids before 30, but Iβll be thirty in less than 2 years so Iβm thinking early thirties ππ«π
You are so sweet π« I am sure you will be a great mom. No matter when it will be π you are such a loving person that you can even feel it here on a social media platform (okay, nostr is not just a social media platform) without ever having met you. I often think about my first time as a mom these days. I was so young... and naive π I read everything about pregnancy, birth and the first time with baby. I was prepared (or so I thought π). I had planned everything. Then my son came...and with him came real life π«£π€£
This is so unbelievably kind, means more than you know π₯Ήπ«β₯οΈ thank you Luna π«π«π« I can tell youβre a wonderful mum π«π«π«π«ππ This makes me feel better π₯Ήππ« I worry that I wonβt be prepared when the day finally comes. I have read not a single baby book πππ« I bet you were brilliant lovely π« did you find the books helpful at all? Or were they a waste of time?
Personal experience says books are great for unrealistic expectations about motherhood π. But it's great to get perspective. Nothing prepares you for the rollercoaster emotions of being a mom, it is the best when everyone is happy and healthy and so awful when you can't take away what it is that's hurting your child. Gut instinct is usually right, nature definitely finds a way. When it's time, you'll be a great parent, the concern you're feeling now is part of it π.
My wonderful friend lent us several books I didnβt crack π I learned most of the things about pregnancy and parenting which I learned before the birth from the internet or from people I know. Thatβs not to say books arenβt useful! Just donβt feel like you will fail if you donβt read one.
Did the books help me π€? Yes and no. In any case, reading them has given me a lot to think about. Also what kind of birth I wanted (I always gave birth on an outpatient basis), as far as nutrition was concerned (I didn't want industrial baby food). But it was also difficult to deal with the fact that many things turned out quite differently than I had imagined. So books gave me an idea and a sense of direction, but in the end, real life was completely different. Unfortunately, my family (parents and siblings) lived very far away from me at the time, so the first few months were pretty tough. I was overwhelmed. But that was okay. My son and I did it together and learned from each other.