Oddbean

I have dealt with many people with PD, all through my life, inside and outside family. It took me a while to understand and I have tried to learn about it to defend myself against it, since you tend to connect with people that have the energy that is familiar to you. Rewire the brain and the emotional body takes time, and this people take a snapshot of you at first sight and they know which buttons to press. It's fascinating. Some are aware, others are not. Psychopaths are damn aware of what they are doing. Narcissist I don't think so, is a mechanics of self defense. Of course if NPD his pared with another cluster B, they can be somehow aware. At least they have the perception that things don't go well to them. That's why one of their most common frases are "How dare you ?" And the face expression let you know that they are shocked in disbelief. It's not fake

>I have dealt with many people with PD, all through my life, inside and outside family. It took me a while to understand and I have tried to learn about it to defend myself against it, since you tend to connect with people that have the energy that is familiar to you. Exactly me too. I'm not to ashamed to admit it's likely my insecurities (especially body image) that attracted them in the past. > Some are aware, others are not. Psychopaths are damn aware of what they are doing. Agreed (arguably be definition :P) >Narcissist I don't think so, is a mechanics of self defense. Exactly my experience too!

I am not ashamed also. Even when people tell me "you should have put your boundaries up"! What boundaries? No one teached me what boundaries are ..lol Only who have been through it and came to a place of awareness, can understand. This was a very interesting conversation. I was a target for lack of boundaries. I was the scapegoat of the family.

Yup! I didn't understand what the term boundaries even meant until a few years ago. But now I realize boundaries are a tool than can help both people even if they don't know it yet. I am a think outside the box person, (sometimes creative), an idea guy or dreamer if you like. I think that becomes an easy target. If you are miserable and insecure, nothing is more fun than popping other people's dreams. I will also admit I'm not immune to this behavior too but I'll stop here before it gets too personal :)

No need to thank me for time, if anything I'd say the reverse is in order. I appreciate the kind regards, but I don't want anyone to leave feeling like they owe me, even a thank you. I chatted because I wanted to and I enjoy meaningful conversations. Reach out any time!