>I have dealt with many people with PD, all through my life, inside and outside family. It took me a while to understand and I have tried to learn about it to defend myself against it, since you tend to connect with people that have the energy that is familiar to you.

Exactly me too. I'm not to ashamed to admit it's likely my insecurities (especially body image) that attracted them in the past. 

> Some are aware, others are not. Psychopaths are damn aware of what they are doing. 
Agreed (arguably be definition :P)

>Narcissist I don't think so, is a mechanics of self defense.
Exactly my experience too!