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Cristalina | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 I am not ashamed also. Even when people tell me "you should have put your boundaries up"!
What boundaries? No one teached me what boundaries are ..lol
Only who have been through it and came to a place of awareness, can understand.

This was a very interesting conversation. I was a target for lack of boundaries. I was the scapegoat of the family.
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ChipTuner | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Yup! I didn't understand what the term boundaries even meant until a few years ago. But now I realize boundaries are a tool than can help both people even if they don't know it yet. 

I am a think outside the box person, (sometimes creative), an idea guy or dreamer if you like. I think that becomes an easy target. If you are miserable and insecure, nothing is more fun than popping other people's dreams. I will also admit I'm not immune to this behavior too but I'll stop here before it gets too personal :)
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Cristalina | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 It feels so good to talk to someone that does understand! 
Yes, let's stop here!
Thank you for your time 🙌
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ChipTuner | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 No need to thank me for time, if anything I'd say the reverse is in order. I appreciate the kind regards, but I don't want anyone to leave feeling like they owe me, even a thank you. I chatted because I wanted to and I enjoy meaningful conversations. Reach out any time!
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Cristalina | 5 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +1 
 Time is the most valuable asset...
I do not say thank you that much or lightly, but I felt in my heart to say it. 
Allow yourself to receive it. 🙌