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 6 months ago, on my birthday, we got the news that my wife had cancer. 
I made a choice then, to believe that in spite of how things appeared, that there were deep and valuable gifts to be found in what we would walk through next.
What happened over the next 6 months was a deepening of our marriage and love for each other that is hard to express. We also experienced the tangible presence of God showing up at every significant medical event, and miraculous provision to pay for them.
My wife also had some deep realizations about how she wanted to live differently. 
Both of us did.

My wife returned to work today, cancer free. Tomorrow is her birthday. 
 😭sooo happy for both of you, God is so good all the time 
 Is "God is so good **all** the time" the same reply you give to people who have tragic stories rather than miraculous ones? 
 yes been there--He gives grace and endurance and personally has shown Himself more clearly to be present during the worst of times. 
 And thank you for asking that, it's always a good check 🙏 
 What the good hearted people in the comments miss, is that you have a way of making everything that happens to others about you. You also only ask questions you think you already know the answer to. Because of this, I personally suspect God is going to go out of His way to make a significant example of His endless love out of you. ❤️ 
In fact I’m going to ask Him to 😆 
 I responded to _you_ with this comment:

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because I truly am happy for you. It has nothing to do with me at all aside from the fact that your experience made me happy. Like everyone else who commented on your OP.

And I responded to npub1vg7z7wmyl48ed6r5ncvvreldgvqx48cy24tk4l6fke2emtzjmxtsff5xds about something she said. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with you, but you're free to weigh in if you must.
 
 Just curious how you felt about God when she got the diagnosis.  Was he good then?  Genuinely curious question here 
 I can only speak for myself. I have been through trauma (more than once). Never did I question His overarching care for me and directing my paths. He calmed my fears at all times, even in the midst of chaos and pain. When I faced doubt, He sent me obvious and palpable signs of His presence, even when the circumstance(s) didn't change whatsoever. I still live with the fallout(s) of those times. God is good, all the time. That doesn't mean I get the life I want all the time. It means He is worthy of my trust no matter what because of Who He is, what He's done, and what He's promised me. I can't imagine going back to not knowing Him at all, and by His grace, that will never happen. 
 My honest thought was, “I’ve graduated to a new level.” And I believed the implication of happening on my birthday was to work to find the gifts inside. 
There are deep riches is the dark places if you continue to believe. 
 love your story & can totally relate!  happy 4 U both! 
 Congrats to you both! 🙏 
 That's wonderful! I'm very happy for you! 
 I hope and pray God continues to bless u both…I looked forward to ur daily posts without knowing any of ur background story but marvel at ur ability (and I’m guessing hers) to keep things as positive and in perspective as possible.🌅
Good luck to you both and God Bless yall🙏🏽 
 Congratulations! I’m happy for you both. 
 wow congratulations and god bless...

🙏✝️👍 
 Which variance of cancer was it? 
 you've been through a challenging and beautiful journey. thank you for sharing, that's inspiring! I'm sending a hug for you and your wife.

may your wife have a wonderful birthday and a loving life for both of you (for what I've seen it already is). 
 🫂  
 God is good! 
 Wow, what amazing timing. Glad to hear she's through. 
 Congratulation!!! May God continue to bless you both with health and many joyful moments 🙏🏼 
 This is beautiful! 
 🥹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏 
 so, so happy for you both! 🧡🎂 
 Good news. Man. I've never gotten so choked up online before. 
 🫂🫂🫂 
 Happy birthday! 
 Congratulations to you both, that’s an incredibly hard thing to go for but happy to hear it brought you closer together 
 May GOD continue to bless you both in many ways. 💜🫂 
 God bless 
 Faith

Congratulations 👏🏻 
 Wow.  Thanks for sharing. 
 happy #bday and welcome back to work.... life 
 Congratulations to your wife and you as well! 
 I think you still have me muted but fuck yeah 
 I get it. It's been 9 years for my wife. We learned a lot. I get it. Cherish the milestones and stay strong. 
 Wish her a happy Birthday for me.  I've been threw the same with my wife in 2019.   There is nothing like a life threatening event to make or break a relationship.  
 That is awesome! Congratulations to you both. 
 Wonderful. Happy birthday, I suppose this time it's really like born again. 
 Happy birthday 💜🎂🎈  
 God is great and happy birthday to her. 
 Fuckin a. Didnt expect the happy ending. God bless👊🎉 
 Wonderful news!!!! Happy for you two! 🎉 
 Happy birthday to your wife! ❤️🫂 
 Congrats and happiest of birthdays 🧡 
 A joyous merry birthday to her! 😁☺️💪🏻🎉💚🫂 
 Praise God ☝🏼 
 🫂 thanks for sharing with us, so happy for her  
 Das sind wundervolle Nachrichten. ❤️ Happy Birthday to your wife!