If someone publishes illegal content on your website comment box you're not immediately liable. Sure, in theory you are and in practice it may get to a point in which something will happen, but this is not unique to Nostr, the entire internet is like this and it has always worked pretty well.
For some reason people keep bringing these points as if they posed some fatal blow to our supposedly naïve ideals or something like that, but that is just FUD.
> people keep bringing these points as if they posed some fatal blow to our supposedly naïve ideals or something like that
Not at all. I think people neglect to mention it. I sometimes see people saying they won't try Nostr because they believe it is full of illegal stuff. So I try to make sure that people know that relay server operators have to be responsible about such things just like any website would.
You're right.
Depends on how you put it, it can be FUD or not.