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 My sincere advise is that you should find a peaceful place to live a peaceful life, perhaps at the countryside and close to nature, with a good woman and raise children. Having a garden is a must. Probably it will be great if you find a remote job. But...
what if you cannot find a woman that wants to live in such a way? That is the serious question...
 
 What you just described is very close to what I wish. I come from the valleys of Kashmir, and I ultimately want to return there.

The question you asked is quite complex, and I don’t think anyone has a perfect answer for it.
Honestly, if I don’t find a woman who shares my core values, I probably wouldn’t marry. This isn’t a compromise I’m willing to make.

It’s not about a specific plan that can change; we can even come up with something better. It’s really about our core values and how we perceive the world. 
 Yessss! Very good. So...
Combine what i said with what Karnage said more or less. You have some time (it is less than you think it is) to do anything and everything, but while doing different things, you should have your plan and your core values as you say. When i said that you should find a peaceful place, i meant that you should do things in order to find it. If you don't do things how will you find that place? Right? I am telling this because later you will not have much desire for travelling etc but rather to do your thing, thus you will need a base. 
As for the question about the woman you almost answered it. If it is to find a 'whatever' woman, you can do it to the base you will want to be and whatever happens on this field you would still follow your purpose, thus have a meaningful life. Finding one that shares the core values and do that together from the beginning is better of course but maybe not necessary. So the question is not difficult to answer, but it is where most men stuck because they hesitate to make the next step. And better to regret what you have done rather what you haven't done while you could.