Oddbean new post about login | logout The modern state of dating is really something. This girl matched me with on a dating app and sent the first message. It was a hand waving emoji basically saying hey. I replied and said “hey what are some things you like to do?” She unmatched. I must’ve come off too strong.
I hate it here (dating world)
It’s rough. I’m just trying to have fun and keep my expectations low
Do not chase. Attract.
Play hard to get Women want what they can’t have
Lmao. Well look at it this way, at least those chicks don't waste a single minute of your life. This is preferable to the psycho bitch revealing herself later.
That is alarming. I feel for everyone who’s dependent on those apps these days. Hang in there, love is real and it is out there for you. 🫂
I listened to a video recently that explained how women were always the ones to initiate romantic encounters. In the animal kingdom, females are the initiators as well. The males are exotic looking: think of peacocks. Women used to “accidentally” drop handkerchiefs in front of men they were attracted to in order to get a conversation started. But women don’t do that anymore so men are expected to cold approach which is fucking brutal. I think that’s why dating apps have taken over. But dating apps give you a distorted perception of what options are actually available for you. So people stay single longer looking for the perfect partner that doesn’t actually exist.
You gotta be like Me Tarzan, you Jane Let’s go out
Should just communicate through gifs https://image.nostr.build/3287447166d60a164f21491e80fe96135e529ef8b7e4f8dab9537f20ce06b207.gif
Close but like this actually https://media.tenor.com/S3v-jUZxnDQAAAAC/entourage-ari-gold.gif
It’s is absolutely brutal. Romanticism and social media have poisoned people’s expectation of a life partner. And yes, it makes sense to me that it’s much more efficient if women take a small first step, I wouldn’t be with the love of my life today if I hadn’t done that.
Ohhh story time! Tell us what step you took. https://image.nostr.build/fbb744159655502ad55e34b20299efa13780719c1494296148cfc32add3b9ad1.gif
Just a very thoughtful, curious, inviting DM after we had interacted publicly on very important topics. 😊 The rest is history. 💘
Sounds like you guys met in college
Came off too needy. Needy for actual conversation
You’re right. Next time I’ll send her this emoji 🖕
😂
🤣 bitches done this to me, miracles do happen tho just have to sift through the shite
There’s sooo much shite sir
Ain't that the truth. The average western woman is completely undatable.
I set my location to different cities in Europe and South America. The women are much hotter and less insane.
I'm an EU commie dating a foreign trad one, holy sheet is it different. No going back for me.
Is she an immigrant or did you move to a different country? How did you meet?
Immigrant here met on tinder lol westernised but strong core traditional values. It's like waking up from a nightmare 🤣
Tinder still going strong? Haha last time I used it it was all bots
The trad ones all verify 🤣
I’m happy I got married before this virtual dating world. Nothing like finding your wife at the local watering hole and approaching her in real life.
I can’t imagine what it would be like for someone to get a divorce now and enter this era of dating. They’d have to relearn everything.
🤦♀️ My guy friends keep telling me stories like this. Women have become so antisocial.
Ya man I can't stand these apps, much better to meet through common interest groups, churches, or friend connections. The awkward texting and what felt like constant elevator pitches... never again!
