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Notes by Mims • TorchLite ignites Nov13 | export

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 @cream queen @eidolon@clubcyberia.co I think you'll find that in this particular exchange, you claimed to be the victim and made to be transphobic because I was being too pushy about... *checks notes* existing. 
 nostr:npub18fkhecrdtq2n2m0xkpk7w37r5pet6p3y6ka2h60act3rwgg35wcqdjyjzv No, probably not. LOL 
 @420f26f4 “I surprised my wife with a momentous and significant journey, but I worry that this undertaking benefits only me, that she is lying about her projected enjoyment of the journey’s ultimate goal, and will bail on me at the last minute.”

I mean, clearly that’s sbout Postal Service. 
 I guess I woke up crying this morning, and my wife asked if I had a nightmare.  I was like, I gue... 
 @420f26f4 Oh, that’s heartbreaking! Glad it’s just a dream! 
 @cbe3959b It is so goddamn tedious when the fascists latch onto a word that they think means “power” to the rest of us and then misuse it over and over again until it loses all meaning. 

“I don’t consent to this!” shout a million fascists as they complain about shit to which their consent is completely irrelevant. 
 Look folks, it’s great that Laphonza Butler is going to be the next senator from California. It’s better than great, it’s fucking awesome.

But Butler is not LGBTQ. 

Butler is a lesbian. 

LGBT, LGBTQ, LGBTQIA, and so on, are words that describe groups, not individuals. 

I’m just… I am already fucking preemptively exhausted at this sound bite. Can we please, please, just not?

#LaphonzaButler #USpol 
 Most of you know I cuss like a drunken lesbian sailor.  But since my transition started I've also... 
 @420f26f4 I keep finding myself saying "Gosh!" like a fucking Downton Abbey character. 
 nostr:npub18fkhecrdtq2n2m0xkpk7w37r5pet6p3y6ka2h60act3rwgg35wcqdjyjzv I don't even know anymore. ... 
 @420f26f4 I’m doing well and mostly I am confused that earlier today you were nimbly sidestepping talk about your gorgeousness and then you drop THAT gorgeous selfie. 
 nostr:npub1ccjtwx43u5uhs5dyfec4qly34ycqpmczl5e8ae3zcczjuhughujs4zj3cp Oh yeah, to be clear, I cou... 
 @420f26f4 

For me it really underscores how The Quest to Acheive Pretty is fundamentally a different thing than addressing and resolving dysphoria. 

And it’s HARD to really distinguish those two at the start of the process. Cause egg brain often says “want to be girl, girls pretty, therefore want to be pretty.”

You’ve kind of got to get a good ways in before you really internalize how not every pretty possibility aligns with your particular femininity. 

@c624b71a 
 This is the best articulation of The Bad Space drama I’ve seen. Perfect encapsulation. 

https://woof.group/@aphyr/111087936523882118 
 My dad just FaceTimed me and the look on his face when my video started was kind of priceless. 
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 @420f26f4 @c626eb92 I'm gonna make you a shirt that says "Dykiest dyke who ever dyked." 
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 @420f26f4 @c626eb92 DO YOU BELIEVE US NOW, JENN?!? 
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 @420f26f4 @c626eb92 Queer spaces are the beeeessssssst. 
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 @420f26f4 @c626eb92 OMG I am so happy for you, Jenn! :D 
 nostr:npub1ccnwhyhvp4wlcj8afsw2puj3rxa9daj2c7jch0zacl39j596485sr5ly9q I think the government shou... 
 @420f26f4 @c626eb92 I like this revision to the “any earnings over arbitrary number” plan. Instead of it being points and we throw the winner a parade, if you make too much money you just go to jail. 
 Ok so some big progress. My wife is ready for us to talk to the kids! I'm going to talk to my old... 
 @420f26f4 You got this, babe. Just tell him it’s all the patriarchy’s fault, trying to suppress the will of the people. ;) 
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 @cream queen Solidarity, mostly—so other trans folks who are closeted or scared or early in their transition journey see that they're not alone. 
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 @420f26f4 I mean… I don’t think it was about Death Cab for Cutie. ;)