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56729d46 | 1 years ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 @420f26f4 but that works both ways, right? You can feel whatever you want here. But I just wanna check in cause I wanna avoid flattening people out to “hot = success = always happy”
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It's Just Undead Jenn 🧟‍♀️ | 1 years ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 @c624b71a Oh yeah, to be clear, I could end up ugly AF and be ok with it. At worst it'd be a lateral move. LOL When I say hope it's about being seen as a woman, not being seen at hot.  Worry not though, I'm soldiering on regardless because failure isn't an option.  😊
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dd83e287 | 1 years ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 @420f26f4 

For me it really underscores how The Quest to Acheive Pretty is fundamentally a different thing than addressing and resolving dysphoria. 

And it’s HARD to really distinguish those two at the start of the process. Cause egg brain often says “want to be girl, girls pretty, therefore want to be pretty.”

You’ve kind of got to get a good ways in before you really internalize how not every pretty possibility aligns with your particular femininity. 

@c624b71a
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It's Just Undead Jenn 🧟‍♀️ | 1 years ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag 
 @3a6d7ce0 @c624b71a 

Yeah that makes sense as well. It's hard to  not think "Oh well pretty equals woman" because I'm socially conditioned to that. 

Do I want to be pretty? FFS, yes of course I do! I even see it as possible. Maybe. One day. If I squint hard enough. Is that the goal? No, I know that too. Knowing it and feeling it though aren't always the same thing.