I hate communicating more every day.

Work only. 

 My condolences. He sounds like an amazing brother. 

 It depends on the context.

Complying with law enforcement when you’re an active school shooter is a net positive for everyone.

Compliance with standards to reduce confusion when working on public projects helps everyone win.

However, complying to leadership that’s bought and paid for by insatiable rich assholes is dirty.

Complying to dictators and aspiring dictators who want to destroy democracy is dirty. 

 It’s amazing what a decentralized communication protocol provides.

It’s also funny that we’ve had IRC and NNTP at our fingertips for decades to serve this need, yet people ignore these protocols along with XMPP.
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