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 all data on nostr is public? 
 So are there no private relays? What if i wanted to create one for just me and my wife to use? Everything will go public because of gossip? 
 My relay is private 
 
Can anyone read from it though?
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 You can have a private relay that only certain npubs can write to, which is what mine is, and only my wife and I can write to it. However, everyone can read from it. 
 Which relay software did you use for this? I set up a personal node without auth, many others started using it unprompted and I blew through my bandwidth quota! Had to turn it off.  
 Mine is LAN only 😎 
 Well yeah, if it's blocked by a NAT or a firewall, sure. I specifically route for mine to be accessible from the outside world. 
 Cool. Is there a way to have it so noone else can read from your own relay?