Oddbean

That's cute as hell - my daughter is all "grown up" now, but, as much as everyone may keep telling me she's a fully grown adult, every time I see/speak to her it's this sort of age I see her as 🥰

Greatest privilege of my life is being her dad - going back to your initial post...I've played the field...as I've got older its got less satisfying and I wish I'd been more like my dad and grandad...proper long term relationships that last.

Yeah I noticed it’s less satisfying to me now that I’m a little older too. I think as we understand ourselves better, we tend to value those superficial things less. But I also think some people that never understood themselves well end up getting divorced and then going through this phase even though they’re older. So maybe it’s just a phase?

I don't think divorce is a good idea generally, therefore the key is to be happy by yourself first, then you can commit. Definitely know yourself before entering a relationship. Be careful not to drown yourself in a sea of pointless pussies, in the wise words of Hank Moody.

Learning to be happy by yourself is great advice. I think you have to date a little to learn who you are though. Humans are relational animals, we learn a lot about ourselves when interacting with others.

There is no formula. Definitely go out there, have fun and be relaxed. You'll meet what you need if you pay attention to your gut feeling. There's your radar! I have a feeling one year from now you'll found what you are looking for.