Hey  @Jon, I need some time to digest this. But thank you immensely for taking the time to reply. I will write back after I have processed it.  

My gut reaction is, yes, of course she was the center of my universe. I was ready to marry her and start a family with her. Why wouldn't she be? I wanted to make her happy in every way that I possibly could. My head cannot wrap around that being an unattractive thing. 

I can afford the large family we both wanted. I could afford to let her be a SAH mom if she wanted it -- and when she said she would always want a career as well as motherhood, I said I would love to be a SAH dad and support her career -- and i already have the nest egg to be able to do that. 

You write some heavy words that I need to let digest. Thank you. 

 I love my wife but she isn't the center of my universe, Jesus is. He's the glue that keeps it all together, otherwise it all falls apart. Hard to understand I know, but it's still the truth 

 Hard to understand and often harder to accept but Jon is 100pct correct