My best advice: don't listen to advice. At least not as things you have to do. Read what people write, but think it through thoroughly, and decide for yourself, trying to predict the outcomes as far as possible. Your life is yours, and you are the one who decides, and lives with the consequences, positive and negative, the latter both from missed opportunities (which Americans focus unreasonably much on IMO, and there seems to be a large percentage of Americans on nostr) and from things you thought you wanted, but later regret. TL:DR: Try to avoid groupthink.