While I certainly don’t advocate for victim mentality, I can’t judge all 30+ somethings living with their parents for their situation. This generation didn’t get many breaks: lack of employment opportunities post 08 crisis (their prime years to get started on a professional path), rising costs of living, unaffordable housing, lack of long term employment security, bleak climate outlook, growing totalitarianism and lack of hope, Covid, rising cost of education, unpayble student loans, ever-growing skillset required for good positions, more inflation.
Ya, you could pull yourself through all of these and be fine if you worked hard enough, made smart decisions and were ahead of the curve, but previous generations had it much easier.
You’ve got to play the hand you’re dealt, but we can still have some sympathy and reserve judgment at an individual level. Not everyone is a lazy couch potato. nostr:note1qhf6zdqsqncsq89vnjfpfr9vw4s6jnmj0xasxrxsq8cnca8fn5aq0eu8hl
The best thing we can do is to stay humble and be grateful for what we have. It could all end tomorrow
This is true. I will not judge him and at the same time feel proud of where I am at dispite hardships.
Remaining sympathetic to others is a key part of being human
Lead by action not words
Some will change their trajectory
there's also a distinction between "I live with my parents" and "my parents live with me"
That generation got everything as kids. I know because they are my siblings. As an Xer, I was lucky if I wasn't sitting out in the snow at 5pm waiting for my parents to get home. By the time the millenials came along, boomer parents had enough money that the kids got nice vacations, cars as teenagers, colleges of their choice. I don't buy that everything is against them now.
Definitely not the people I know … myself included
My exposure to millennials may be clouded by the extreme wealth we've been living with in North Texas since the 90s.
My son is 26, and he has been working steady since he graduated from high school. he pays 40% of his paycheck to the household expenses, and saves 50% into his investments. He is further along the path of retirement than I am.
Have to think of a group of older women I overheard in a cafe once. They were talking about how they spend their youth rebuilding Germany after the war and how their youth was stolen.
To me, the problem is not much that as a 36 yo he still lives with his parents, but that he uses it as an excuse for not dating.
Never trust a man who takes the piss out of his friends situation for engagement.
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