We also should account for the fact that berating people to stay committed to their marriage, while their acquaintances are divorcing, is fruitless moralizing.
If people see parallels between the lives of the people divorcing their own lives, they will be inclined to follow suit. That is why divorce tends to be "contagious".
Better would be, if they saw fewer commonalities and could view the divorces as "weird, personal unfortunate" incidents. That requires removing such commonalities.
Berating people to stay unhappy and unhealthy is definitely wrong.
It’s hard to have strong marriages and strong families when everyone is here in modern captivity, instead of engaging with survival every day together. When people needed each other acutely, marriages and families were stronger.
I think adjusting incentives toward making productive behavior more attractive than unproductive behavior can go a long way to strengthening families.
At the end of the day it comes down to communication and balance. If those don’t happen every marriage is doomed to fail.
Temptation to sin is a real thing and avoiding sin is a real defense against this temptation.
Unpopular view: A piece of paper from a government does not undo sacred vows taken before God and men.
Also, government marriages were a 20th century invention in the US - and the initial purpose was anti-miscegenation. Segregation is useful to totalitarian rule.
Muting conversation as it went too deep in mythology
I think that's a very popular view. It doesn't fix the underlying issue, but rather discourages marriages from forming, but I'm sure it felt good to write it down.
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