Exactly. Far too many guys internalize their failures to find a wife as a personal issue. (For some, it is, especially if you're a drug addict or weigh 300lbs, something along those lines). 
You can only go so far as an atomized individual in such a broken and fucked up society. Asking individual men to just 'bootstraps' themselves into creating functioning communities and then calling them incel losers for failing to do so is absurd. 

 @a0026d72 @Springtime for Zeon (Woggy Mk II) Heartiste guys used to criticize an idea called “oneitis.” The idea that one girl, and one girl only, is right or perfect for you, and no others can do it. This is wrong, and they would point out that for a man to win, he has to play good odds. 
If your odds are 100,000 whores on tinder for one vaguely wife material, or 100 bar sluts for a viable girlfriend, or 10 office ladies with HR hanging over your back, your odds are not good.