Exactly. Far too many guys internalize their failures to find a wife as a personal issue. (For some, it is, especially if you're a drug addict or weigh 300lbs, something along those lines). 
You can only go so far as an atomized individual in such a broken and fucked up society. Asking individual men to just 'bootstraps' themselves into creating functioning communities and then calling them incel losers for failing to do so is absurd.