that is another aspect of it as well

it's a polarity thing... we tend to have an inverse image in intimacy to our public image... the cliche of the gentle oaf is a good example

and probably how ticklish you are has a part in it too! they are like buttons all wired to the base chakra 

 Human Duality

Private and Public Personalities

Dr. Jeckle and Mr Hyde 

 Ha ha.
Yeah, everyone is like, your husband must have it so hard.

The husband:
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