Yeah, why don't we leave women alone and stop telling them how they should live
Yes, every woman has to answer to her own conscience, just as every man does. Women have personal and moral agency. Even women who choose to submit to their husbands are doing so deliberately and willingly. They aren't political prisoners.
They maybe fear retaliation. Which could be justified.
Then she's just a prisoner. Submission is a voluntary act, devoid of coercion.