@b5cdaf1a They are likely compelled out of irrational fear for their children and grandchildren. Or they could just be busybodies. 

 @b5cdaf1a The best way to create a diversion from their own incompetence and/or corruption is to make a huge public spectacle about things which are ultimately none of their business. 

 @b5cdaf1a My guess is that you do understand them, but that makes it more difficult (?) 

 @b5cdaf1a You probably do. If you have kids, have ever baby sat kids, seen kids at the store and their parents have already spoiled the hell out of them, etc. You fully understand.

They care about they feel they run the world. The sheer magnitude of narcissism running their minds dictates to them they can comment on any and everything in existence. And have to express as much as much to any and everyone who'll listen. 

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I mean, to be fair, I demand I be the woman my husband loves and adores most especially because I get to be as is, and that is seemingly perfect for him, same as he is for me. I want to be better and whatever needs improving because I love me. That he does too is just kinda fantastic. 

Is that what you meant or no? 

 @b5cdaf1a and they are so confuse themselves and end up share bed with everyone but one they love💀 

 @b5cdaf1a in retrospect, I do understand the people who care about me who tried to gently warn me about a certain abusive partner I had (thankfully I realised it too and left, but not after suffering some batshit crazy abuse at his hands).

You probably had something else in mind and I apologize for possibly taking the discourse elsewhere, but there are instances in which an open ear to those expressing genuine concern would be warranted.

That said, we all learn from experience. 

 @b5cdaf1a I wonder if some of them don't feel trapped in their own relationships and it's a form of wishful thinking. "I can MAKE myself love him/her! That's my CHOICE!"

The idea of love being something that comes organically and does not need to be forced must be frightening to those who have never felt it.

(Disclosure: I myself have never been in love, but am wildly aware that it doesn't happen by shrugging and going "guess I'm stuck with THIS jerk.")